Onetis with someone I'll never see again

[sanoj]

I've been in a "unofficial relationship" a while now and i guess the only reason its not official is because she is moving over seas in a month. We'll probably never going to live in the same town again. It's been great. She is hot, into me and the sex is fantastic.

I think about her way too much and I am starting to think that when christmas comes around and she is out of my life, I am going to get a little depressed.

How can I protect my feelings at this point?

 

[slaog]

Focus on other things. Hobbies, interests, work/study, women etc.


Are you sure she was that much into you? She knows shes going away and might want to just have a little fun. Did she make any offers of meeting up again?

 

[sanoj]

Yes. She's been talking about that she can't wait to see me again after her trip(a semester). And now she's invited me to take a vacation together before her trip.

Damn. Each time she is giving something of her self, I feel the need to do the same. Gotta learn to keep the power she gives me.

I feel more and more AFC as the relationship develops.


One other thing that has been bothering me is that she has a picture of her and her male friend hugging as her profile picture on Facebook. Maybe she is trying to make me jealous. Is that normal? I know I should'nt act like it bothers me, but it does. Kinda disrespectful, right?

 

[hansol]

Well, you're either together or you're not. If it's "unofficial" like you said, don't expect the things that come from being in a monogamous and committed relationship. You're making it out to be something it isn't, and that is bad news bears. You're upset over a facebook pic? Really? ...

Be happy with the time you spent together. Enjoy it for what it is, and really, 4 months isn't that long. Let her do her thing, you do your thing, and if something is for real between you guys, then you'll pick up where you left off.

Don't turn into a dramatic wuss and pretend there is something between you and her that isn't actually there. And from what you've said, this sounds fairly casual and non-committal, so don't wreck it with facebook nonsense.

 

[sanoj]

I guess you're right, hansol. I should be happy with the time we spent together.

It's just too bad I don't have a back-up girl that I want to spend time with at the moment ^^

 

[sanoj]

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[Chickfight]

Ouch. :crackup:
Well, you really should have listened.
What else can you do? Learn and move on. She's not worth being bitter about. Consider yourself lucky it's over.