how the **** do you get a girl you are infactuated with out of your head!! its becoming a complete pain in the ass...doing my best to control it at the minute and not destroy the relationship (still not exclusive yet) but its ****in annoying!!
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
SoldMySoul
Master Don Juan
Be patient and someone will answer you... Of course you will hear spin more plates and Fuk 10 girls. Just don't go and do like I did this weekend and spend all day with her. I had oneitis for this girl months ago and thought I had gotten over it. Stupid a$$ me goes and opens almost closed wounds. Getting over this takes time and I feel your pain. I just wish I had a better answer. More of an empathy post than an answer. If we had more options then that would be a start. I have been laying back and not really trying though. Good luck!!!
Sir Juanalot
Senior Don Juan
The way get over any girl is to get under another :yes:
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Rebound Material
Master Don Juan
Don't we all hate getting trapped in this spider web called oneitis especially when our interest levels are higher than theirs?
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=107447
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=107447
Yeah like everone else said, meet other girls. I actually ran into a girl I had onetis with yesterday. While I was chatting with her I asked my self why I was so obsessed with her. She was nothing special, she had nice boobs but that's about it. But I now have oneitis with a girl I met over the summer, it never ends.
Hey man, I think the best thing you can take away from that post is what squirrel said:
"One-itis is a misdirected feeling of NEED toward someone. You put all your faith in them and get to a point where you feel that you NEED them to fulfill you. In reality, the only person you should feel one-itis for is the person in the mirror."
His statement is 300% correct, and you should ingrain that into your head.
You will get over it, but first you need to let it go. I know that can be easier said than done but in reality, if you again read that quote, there is no reason you should be feeling One-itis for any woman. No matter how "cool" they seem, it's just not worth it. Meeting other girls is the best way to stop the feeling.
"One-itis is a misdirected feeling of NEED toward someone. You put all your faith in them and get to a point where you feel that you NEED them to fulfill you. In reality, the only person you should feel one-itis for is the person in the mirror."
His statement is 300% correct, and you should ingrain that into your head.
You will get over it, but first you need to let it go. I know that can be easier said than done but in reality, if you again read that quote, there is no reason you should be feeling One-itis for any woman. No matter how "cool" they seem, it's just not worth it. Meeting other girls is the best way to stop the feeling.
then whats the point of risk taking.. whats the point of datingPaper Boy said:
guy you cannot control these aruges.. if u fall for someone.. you cannnot control that. You also cannot control your attraction towards someone.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
i agree... i have been a DJ playing girls for about a year now and to be honest it feels hollow sometimes! i don't think it is AFC by anymeans to have oneitis and being in love as long as its 2 wayed!!! alot of DJs on this forum are stone cold who cannot feel emotion, or are being trained to! Thats bull****sexy_kuta said:
My oneitis is not completely misdirected as we have been with each other for a month now! i just wish i didnt fall so fast because i am afraid of becoming too desperate!! however think that this forum has trained me not to jump into things and take things slowly and be PATIENT! just wish i wasnt as infactuated so quickly!lol
