"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Oneitis Trying to come back

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I know this is my first post, but i have been reading DJ forums for about 2 months so im not a complete noob but anyway, My oneitis (HB8) that I finally got the courage to next and break off all contact with is trying to make her way back into my group. It has been 3 weeks of no contact and before I nexted her she made friends with my friend J and was flirting or showing IOI's to him. Hes not that good of a friend hes just kinda friends with my other friend, and I called him on **** blocking before with this chick and he didn't seem to care, if anything it just made him want to go for her more. My point is he knows I like her and invites her to hang out with our friends. What are your opinions, to bail on my friends just to avoid getting sucked back into oneitis. But if im not there and I hear that they end up hooking up, I would probably be mad.
I know i shouldn't care but its kinda hard when she also wants to hang out with him.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Rebound Material

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Bluesteak said:
I know this is my first post, but i have been reading DJ forums for about 2 months so im not a complete noob but anyway, My oneitis (HB8) that I finally got the courage to next and break off all contact with is trying to make her way back into my group. It has been 3 weeks of no contact and before I nexted her she made friends with my friend J and was flirting or showing IOI's to him. Hes not that good of a friend hes just kinda friends with my other friend, and I called him on **** blocking before with this chick and he didn't seem to care, if anything it just made him want to go for her more. My point is he knows I like her and invites her to hang out with our friends. What are your opinions, to bail on my friends just to avoid getting sucked back into oneitis. But if im not there and I hear that they end up hooking up, I would probably be mad.
I know i shouldn't care but its kinda hard when she also wants to hang out with him.
Ive been through a similar situation as yours 2 years ago: Me and this chick had 'something', she got accepted into my social group, she broke it off with me, now she's hanging out with my friends, this made oneitis THAT much harder to kill, ALL my friends knew that I still liked her, I called her out on alot of sh!t thus ending our 'friendship', my friend that I trusted the most in the group backstabbed me and went for her behind my back...I then got ostricized by the group by the both of them after they hooked up. THE END.

Yea...your 'friend' is a douche. Also, that girl knows that by going for your friend its going to affect you negatively. Its a spite move. My advice would be to stay clear of them(or your entire group) unless you know that you can handle the torture...
 

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Rebound Material said:
Ive been through a similar situation as yours 2 years ago: Me and this chick had 'something', she got accepted into my social group, she broke it off with me, now she's hanging out with my friends, this made oneitis THAT much harder to kill, ALL my friends knew that I still liked her, I called her out on alot of sh!t thus ending our 'friendship', my friend that I trusted the most in the group backstabbed me and went for her behind my back...I then got ostricized by the group by the both of them after they hooked up. THE END.

Yea...your 'friend' is a douche. Also, that girl knows that by going for your friend its going to affect you negatively. Its a spite move. My advice would be to stay clear of them(or your entire group) unless you know that you can handle the torture...

yea, hes not even a friend, hes kinda like a guy that just hangs out with us, so i cant really tell him to not talk to her or don't invite her because then he would feel alpha
 
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