"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Oneitis question

navyseal2101

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Is it still an onitis if she will sleep with me? She is like a rly chill and HB9 girl and when I try I cant rly think of a flaw of her, so I was thinking about cutting her out of my life incase I get to attached, is this a good or bad idea? BTW I think about her more often then i'd like to admit, I may be getting a bit obsessed which is why i'm concerned.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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WesCottII

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Cut her out. No questions, never leads anywhere remotley worth going to.
 

TheHumanist

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Wait? What? Okay... she they are together and he is developing an attachment to her... why dump her again? Self-control and patience is needed, I don't see any alarm for cutting her out, unless starting to develop feelings counts...

Edit: ah, you don't want to get attached (missed that little detail), getting attached is expected being around long enough, but if you don't... yeah, better to get out before you can't bring yourself to. Though make sure that is in your best interest.
 
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Grand Wizzard Alamar

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Unless you can control your "obsession" and put yourself and your life before her, you should start moving away from her.
 

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ty yeah, thats how I'm forgetting about girls I used to like.
instead of people telling you or you trying to think of how bad a girl could be, you just simply move on.

1 in 4,000,000,000 females is one of a kind... can you believe those odds? I sure don't. find the 2nd in 4,000,000,000 then the 3rd and the 4th, etc.

Don't waste your time or life if you recieve little or nothing in return.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Well I do get things in return. alot of good things... thats why i'm asking b/c even though i'm getting what I want i'm getting attached, it's not that shes not putting out.
 

Grand Wizzard Alamar

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yeah man I actually think you're not obsessed, making this topic in the first place shows that you're able to control yourself if you need to.

keep her, more good will come from it than bad at this point.

just be a little less obsessed and ur fine.
 

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I've had plenty of one-itis. The only thing that seems to work for me is still talking to her, but no flirting. Also kiss another girl. Just kiss her. She could be the ugliest SOB. It gets better with every kiss.
 

Grand Wizzard Alamar

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give a hug to your mom lol and you'll feel better....
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Wow, I have to say what timing. She just broke up with me... it feels like how it used to. mabye its for the better? IDK what I did, I know better then to ask, but I do care. You think she was cheating on me? This is ridiculous, ever since i've improved myself no denials etc. and now I get dumped by the girl that matters to me. I guess this is something I have to get used to also, mabye getting dumped 10 times will make it hurt less. Im going to watch fight club to cheer up, be on later.
 

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hahha, yea fight club is good. anyway i met another new girl today so i can keep my ranks up to an acceptable level.
 
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