Oneitis / Friendzoned?

[madhandles23]

Long-time DJ here (posting under a new account).

I've been in this game for a long time, but every now and then we move back into our old habits.

I've been dating multiple women the past few months. My sex life has been great. I've had at least 3 women who wanted relationships, who I took a pass on.

Fast fwd to the past week, I went out with a plate that totally blew me away. She was sexy, smart, and I was on top of my game as well. Took her out for drinks and had her back to my place within a couple of hours.

I'm not sure if it's cause I liked her a lot, but for some reason, I didn't make any aggressive moves on her that night. We kissed and there was a lot of touching of course, but nothing crazy. I then pulled a ballsy move and invited her out this past weekend. I was having 10-15 people get together for my bday, and I honestly just wanted to bring someone. And she came. The night went well; we had a blast.

She slept over again, and we were both so hammered that we passed out. The next day she hung out at my place all day with a lot of playful touching. I got more aggressive this time around, and she put me off saying, 'only our 2nd date'. Now, I know a lot of you will say that it's Beta of me to let a woman hang around my place all day, snuggling, with no sexual action. However, it's hard to tell an HB to leave when you've got nothing to do, and all she wants to do is kiss you and snuggle all day. That was Sunday.

Yesterday, I went about my day, but I noticed she was in the back of my mind. Not something that's happened to me in awhile. I decided to let it pass.

Woke up this morning, and decided that I was going to be ballsy and lock her up this Friday night for a date. She replies with, 'well I made plans early on Friday. what did you want to do?'. So I just laid it out and I said, 'I want to take you out. Let's do something afterwards.'. About an hour passes by, no response. Then finally, 'yeah I guess that could work. I don't know what time i'll be done, but sure.'

Now maybe I'm overthinking this.. but it just seems to me like there's been some sort of shift in interest. I could be totally wrong, but it's just something you feel in your gut. And worst of all, I'm starting to get the oneitis for this chick. she's in my head.

any thoughts/advice on how to proceed?

 

[PokerStar]

it seems you are putting all your eggs into one basket. Sure she could be the one or she could not be the one. women are so good at hiding their crazy. Anyway, make plans with other chicks, dont go fully ghost, leave her wanting more of you.

Give her a taste of what could happen then take it away.

If she comes around and wants to set up plans be nonchalant about it. you cant show all of your cards just yet.

 

[Glassguy]

She was honest and told you that she made other plans, yet she was still offering to do something with you afterwards. I dont see why you are sweating it.

She could have just said "I am tied up Friday" and left it at that.

You had a good first date, she obviously made a great impression on you. Nothing wrong with that. Anymore it is something new if I think about some chick out of the blue. Most of the time I forget about them until they message me again. There is good and bad in that.

So, now what do you do? Simple-

She told you she didnt know when she would be free. I would come back with "I would certainly like to hang out with you again but I understand that you already have plans for Friday. Lets do this- I will make other plans Friday and we will get together when we are both free and have plenty of free time. Have fun Friday and we can work something out another day".

See how she responds. You are slightly over thinking this man.

She hung around your house all day after the date. Premature in my mind but not the end of the world. She obviously has high interest and feels comfortable with you, both good.

I will also agree that anymore if I really enjoy a chick's company and feel as if she has more to offer than a pump and dump, I dont try to fvck her right off the rip. I'd rather let things move naturally if there is really high interest.

On a safe note, still be chatting with other chicks. Chicks can be here today and gone tomorrow even after showing tremendous interest.

 

[wifehunter]

Women make better DJ's than men. You need to know what to do, way in advance before it happens. No time to come on here and ask what to do!

Always be prepared for anything. With women this a capital ANYTHING!

They'll throw a snowball at you, and while you're focused on that snow ball, she'll have another aready in the air.

What makes us feel SO special? They have plates too...we're just another one of their plates.

Live by the sword, die by the sword.

 

[madhandles23]

She was honest and told you that she made other plans, yet she was still offering to do something with you afterwards. I dont see why you are sweating it.

She could have just said "I am tied up Friday" and left it at that.

You had a good first date, she obviously made a great impression on you. Nothing wrong with that. Anymore it is something new if I think about some chick out of the blue. Most of the time I forget about them until they message me again. There is good and bad in that.

So, now what do you do? Simple-

She told you she didnt know when she would be free. I would come back with "I would certainly like to hang out with you again but I understand that you already have plans for Friday. Lets do this- I will make other plans Friday and we will get together when we are both free and have plenty of free time. Have fun Friday and we can work something out another day".

See how she responds. You are slightly over thinking this man.

She hung around your house all day after the date. Premature in my mind but not the end of the world. She obviously has high interest and feels comfortable with you, both good.

I will also agree that anymore if I really enjoy a chick's company and feel as if she has more to offer than a pump and dump, I dont try to fvck her right off the rip. I'd rather let things move naturally if there is really high interest.

On a safe note, still be chatting with other chicks. Chicks can be here today and gone tomorrow even after showing tremendous interest.

Appreciate the common sense advice to get my head out of my ass. I know she has interest. I'm only sweating it because she hasn't been super aggressive in showing it like most of the chicks I've been dating. She's more of that 'southern belle' type of girl, who expects the guy to make almost all advances.

Most of the HBs who I've been dating will ask ME to hangout a day or two after I see them. Probably a lot of that has to do with the fact they realize that I probably have other options.

Going to take my foot off the gas on this one for now. I just setup other plates for tonight and tomorrow to get my head out of it.

thanx

 

[derby1]

What makes us feel SO special? They have plates too...we're just another one of their plates.

this is why when you excite then bang a woman to the max she puts you in the really important he is my king "zone"

just getting in there can be a bit frustrating lol

 

[wifehunter]

this is why when you excite then bang a woman to the max she puts you in the really important he is my king "zone"

just getting in there can be a bit frustrating lol

catering to ego...Eddie Murphy has a few words about dat.

I don't 'bang' women.

 

[derby1]

I don't bang women.

you should try it works first time everytime ****ing a woman in every submissive position known

 

[wifehunter]

you should try it works first time everytime ****ing a woman in every submissive position known

Well, if I could find a woman that wasn't trash, had my house in order, etc. ducks in a row....maybe

My goal is to build the ultimate man cave, and get lost in it.

 

[madhandles23]

this is why when you excite then bang a woman to the max she puts you in the really important he is my king "zone"

just getting in there can be a bit frustrating lol

Somewhat agree. I mean YOU'RE right--most of the women that I've banged early on have had high interest. But I usually lose interest in them, because I find out there was a reason why it was just THAT easy. Either they never get laid (because they're nuts) or they always get laid (because they are nuts).

But my cut off for no sex would be 3 dates. At least you should be getting oral by then. If not, she's either prude (which is not a huge issue), or she's just not that into you IMO.

 

[lizardking82]

A woman will test the most the man she likes the most. Her feeling for your is strong so she wants to make sure if it's really who you are or just a fake thing/beginner's luck. Proceed calmly through all her tests. Don't be agressive.

Here's a story of mine to back that up: I went to this girl's place after working with a photography project for the school she studies in and situation got so hot online that second time I ever saw her was at her place. I went there and for 2 hours in a row she was teasing me, playing, at first not kissing much, then not going to the bedroom, for two ****ing hours. I did not give a damn, I was enjoying the kissing and the messing around and frankly would have slept without the sex that night. We went on to bang the first time around 2 hours and a half later from the moment I entered the house, banged again half an hour after the first one, she let me sleep then woke me up about 3 hours later for another round and then let me sleep for another 2 hours and woke me up for the final round before I left the house and went on about my day.

When the woman can see that you know the sex is going to come and you don't push for it other than some playful stuff, she is going to get so horny she will not resist ****ing you that same night. It is key, keep it in mind. Having sex with her doesn't make or break your mood. You're there, enjoying it, having fun, you're being a bimbo together with her. She sees that, you will have sex with her and it will feel damn good.

 

[The Diver]

When the woman can see that you know the sex is going to come and you don't push for it other than some playful stuff, she is going to get so horny she will not resist ****ing you that same night. It is key, keep it in mind. Having sex with her doesn't make or break your mood. You're there, enjoying it, having fun, .

Spot on! this is so true. Naturally playing the Push Pull: Sexualy agrasive for one moment , cool and indifference the next, it's confuse them, b'cos "Having sex with her is not such a big deal for you", not "Make or Break", you're just enjoying and having fun together.

 

[Trump]

Woke up this morning, and decided that I was going to be ballsy and lock her up this Friday night for a date. She replies with, 'well I made plans early on Friday. what did you want to do?'. So I just laid it out and I said, 'I want to take you out. Let's do something afterwards.'. About an hour passes by, no response. Then finally, 'yeah I guess that could work. I don't know what time i'll be done, but sure.'

Asking a girl out is "balsy"? What is having sex with her, skydiving without a helmet?

"I want to take you out" is weak. You have to have definite plan. "I want to take you to the movie/game/theatre/dinner."

You say: "I'll pick you up after you are done, let me know what time."