hi, lurker for a while, not posted much. 31yo, and a bad case of oneitis. Feedback and support greatly appreciated. I'll keep it short.
May 2010: started dating a girl in the same building as where I work.
August 2010: I expressed doubt about where things were going, as I was maybe not very enthusiastic. After a few days got back.
I had to travel for 2 weeks in June, she left soon after for 4 weeks; halfway those 4 weeks we met up for a weekend. Later in October I had to leave for 6 weeks, and Christmas break again 2 weeks. Lots of travelling first 6 months. After christmas break, she got a dog... I felt a bit excluded, and sleepovers were reduced, as she had to take care of the dog a lot.
May 2011: broke up, as I was under pressure for work, and wasn't in love or anything.
October 2011: tried to get back, had foot in the door, but fvcked it up. She broke it off after 4 weeks.
January 2012: I see her almost daily, and have an extremely bad case of oneitis.
Now, I've done a lot of reading, have some experience with the game and so on. Many girls are not as high-quality as this one. smart, kind, not a single harm. not a single issue with her. The world seems to be ending. Unlikely I'd meet someone as good and high quality as her again. I'm getting obsessed, but can't avoid her completely as she works in same building.
What to do? Anyone else ever had the "she's the one" feeling?
I remember times during Jan-May 2011 that I wanted to get out. Now it's the other way around. I know I'm bargaining, but maybe this is it? Maybe this was my chance?
an AFC (currently).
May 2010: started dating a girl in the same building as where I work.
August 2010: I expressed doubt about where things were going, as I was maybe not very enthusiastic. After a few days got back.
I had to travel for 2 weeks in June, she left soon after for 4 weeks; halfway those 4 weeks we met up for a weekend. Later in October I had to leave for 6 weeks, and Christmas break again 2 weeks. Lots of travelling first 6 months. After christmas break, she got a dog... I felt a bit excluded, and sleepovers were reduced, as she had to take care of the dog a lot.
May 2011: broke up, as I was under pressure for work, and wasn't in love or anything.
October 2011: tried to get back, had foot in the door, but fvcked it up. She broke it off after 4 weeks.
January 2012: I see her almost daily, and have an extremely bad case of oneitis.
Now, I've done a lot of reading, have some experience with the game and so on. Many girls are not as high-quality as this one. smart, kind, not a single harm. not a single issue with her. The world seems to be ending. Unlikely I'd meet someone as good and high quality as her again. I'm getting obsessed, but can't avoid her completely as she works in same building.
What to do? Anyone else ever had the "she's the one" feeling?
I remember times during Jan-May 2011 that I wanted to get out. Now it's the other way around. I know I'm bargaining, but maybe this is it? Maybe this was my chance?
an AFC (currently).