Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Yes, I am trying everything out, I just wanted to know do I do it the same as everybodys else, that is, is the same way!Originally posted by seanchai
... Obviously something about being very good looking isn't getting you laid as much as you'd like, so you found this site. Try EVERYTHING out.
Well, I think you might have to modify your game just a tad if you're as "good-looking" as you claim you are. Generally, females are a little bit more shy in their reaction with hot guys, so you might have to be a bit more outgoing and proactive.Originally posted by Amateur_FOR_NOW
Yes, I am trying everything out, I just wanted to know do I do it the same as everybodys else, that is, is the same way!
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.