"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

Read more...

One parent lying to me

AttackFormation

AttackFormation

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 2, 2014
Messages
4,062
Reaction score
3,617
Age
33
Location
Sweden
This is something that happened 5-7 years ago and one of the foremost childhood issues still tearing at my mind.

So my mom made me with my dad, then she divorced him after I was born. When I was 4 she'd made a kid with a new guy, and then she moved in with him when I was 6 and married him some time. I think I was 9 when I pretty much interrogated her on why she got together with this new husband as the relationship was obviously a complete fvck-up and she admitted to me that it wasn't because she likes or loves him - she vaguely said that it was for support or something. But I don't think even that's the truth, because she had and has to support his low-intelligent dumb @ss, not the other way around.

Then she separated from him for three years when I was 16-19. Sometime during these three years, I got a phone call from my dad who told me my mom had sent him a letter saying she wants to get back together and that I also wanted that when she asked me. He told me not to mention this to my mom IIRC, which I wasn't planning on anyway. But when I years later brought this up because I wanted to know the truth, she said it was "nothing but fables and fantasies" that she would have sent such a letter.

Which one do you think is lying and most importantly why?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

Y

YawataNoKami

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 10, 2013
Messages
821
Reaction score
306
Water is wet and snow is cold. People lie all the time and your parents are people too. You should be worried about others things like living in Sweden. No offense.
 
Tictac

Tictac

Banned
Joined
Jul 28, 2009
Messages
3,668
Reaction score
1,244
Location
North America, probably an airport
People remember and say things to put themselves in the best light. They may even believe what they say.

You got dealt a sh*tty hand here. They're you're parents so give them props and respect from bringing you into the world. That's all you owe them.

YNK is right - parents are people too. Treat them accordingly.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
22 Rules for Massive Success With Women
Top