"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

One on one coffee dates with female friends

BannedGod

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Oct 3, 2006
Messages
293
Reaction score
3
Location
Connecticut
How often do you guys do this, outta curiosity? Or do you avoid them at all costs?

I tend to enjoy them, it's a change from action-orientated outings that I do with male friends, I also find that it helps practice my conversation skills

Depending on how busy I am, I tend to do this at least once a week, although sometimes its not one on one.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

Read more...

Yuma

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 7, 2007
Messages
107
Reaction score
6
Location
North Carolina
Always.

I'm kind of a coffee snob, so as far as I'm concerned, if we go out for coffee, you're on my home turf. I'm comfortable in coffee shops, I wind up knowing the people who work there, and the ones I go to have great atmosphere - perfect for one on one conversations.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

Mike32ct

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 22, 2007
Messages
8,411
Reaction score
5,176
Location
Eastern Time Zone where it's always really late
BannedGod said:
How often do you guys do this, outta curiosity? Or do you avoid them at all costs?

I tend to enjoy them, it's a change from action-orientated outings that I do with male friends, I also find that it helps practice my conversation skills

Depending on how busy I am, I tend to do this at least once a week, although sometimes its not one on one.
If you are ok being friends with them, it's fine. I have a few female friends that I really like. I wouldn't F them, but I like their company. So we meet up sometimes.
 

Alex DeLarge

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 26, 2011
Messages
845
Reaction score
25
I hang out with female friends pretty often. We don't usually hit a coffee shop though. It's usually in a group and we hangout at someone's place or go to a bar. It's great practice for game and conversational skills. I actually wound up hooking up with two long time female friends I practiced game on.
 
Top