One more reason to never date a single/divorced woman with kids

[soxfan52]

The EX they will undoubtedly want to or end up going back to or just banging. That is the father, they are the family, you are not. The woman almost always has the fantasy in her head of getting back with him and having the wonderful happy family she always wanted.
He on the other hand is always going to feel it is his right to come back and bang her anytime he wants. He will especially want to when he gets pissed another guy is taking his family.
She will always go back to him if there is a chance she can have the family back. You are just a temp. If the ex all of a sudden has changed and is mt wonderful now guess who is leaving?
There bond is that kid or kids and always will be.

 

[runner83]

Yes, that's all true.

And why waste your time and resources bringing up someone else's kid.

Story behind this you care to share?

 

[Falcon25]

I was thinking about this the other day. I also think that sometimes a woman is so disgusted with her ex and she won't touch him, but still, he will try to come back and "fuvk her emotionally". That is to say, even if she never touches him again, he will make her feel guilty, and give her low self esteem, where she will turn on you instead of him.

 

[Borknagar]

All drama aside, dating a women with a kid or kids is a waste of time cause ni nearly every case someone be it you or them will drift away cause of the fact you'll rarely get alone time with them if any time at all. And it will just be a text relationship with most of your "trying to make plans" will evolve around the rare occurrence she will be available without the kid(s) which she will have no idea when. and many times their babysitter may cancel, or only do it for a hour or two.

No point, dating someone with kids would be no better, but even worse than a long distance relationship.

 

[Kingoflove]

This information is useful,thanks!

 

[Robert28]

another thing is i get tired of hearing her talk about her stupid kids all the time. Little Timmy did this, little Mary did that, blah blah blah blah. like i give a damn. i know it sounds mean but i don't give one rats ass about her kids, they aren't mine.

 

[PokerStar]

ok I admit guys...Im sorta seeing this girl with a 2 year old child.

She was married of course, had a kid and now is divorced. Ive met the kid, shes really cute. But I understand that there will be no chance for a realtionship.

She is just looking for sex and so am I.

I like her, she cool and we have similar interests which is fine for me. I know that there will be no emotional investment. Just 2 adults enjoying each others time.

So its not so bad, if you just want to BANG it out together. but once you start looking for a long term relationship, everything gets thrown out the window.

 

[soxfan52]

ok I admit guys...Im sorta seeing this girl with a 2 year old child.

She was married of course, had a kid and now is divorced. Ive met the kid, shes really cute. But I understand that there will be no chance for a realtionship.

She is just looking for sex and so am I.

I like her, she cool and we have similar interests which is fine for me. I know that there will be no emotional investment. Just 2 adults enjoying each others time.

So its not so bad, if you just want to BANG it out together. but once you start looking for a long term relationship, everything gets thrown out the window.

Be very careful of this. A woman with kids rarely is just wanting sex, she wants a family. She is using the sex to attract you and perhaps trap you. Also it's terrible for the kid if you start getting attached and just plan on leaving . In my opinion nothing good can come of this. Stop thinking with your **** and run.

 

[PokerStar]

Be very careful of this. A woman with kids rarely is just wanting sex, she wants a family. She is using the sex to attract you and perhaps trap you. Also it's terrible for the kid if you start getting attached and just plan on leaving . In my opinion nothing good can come of this. Stop thinking with your **** and run.

i hear you dude. Ill be watching this very closely.

 

[JimmieMurdoc]

At what point does this happen? I am the ex that is changing and she seems to find it impossible to see me any differently than she did over the course of the relationship. And all I ever hear about is exes getting back together, yet for whatever reason I cannot improve the situation. And she seems to be oblivious to the fact that our current relationship status is destroying our sweet, almost 5 year old boy..

 

[Robert28]

At what point does this happen? I am the ex that is changing and she seems to find it impossible to see me any differently than she did over the course of the relationship. And all I ever hear about is exes getting back together, yet for whatever reason I cannot improve the situation. And she seems to be oblivious to the fact that our current relationship status is destroying our sweet, almost 5 year old boy..

not to bash you or anything but do you not know how to pull out on time or spend $.75 for a condom?

 

[JimmieMurdoc]

I do know how to pull out on time. I just stopped doing it for a while. And I never used a condom with her, except when I wanted to feel like I wasn't having sex.

Regardless of that, my ex seems to be the only one that doesn't give a **** about doing the family thing, so as far as the topic.. Worry not fellas, there are the anomalies that don't really give a **** about anything

 

[djroc]

They are probably rare but there are exceptions. Even if I was wasted and my ex wife was naked I wouldn't touch her. Also, you might be able to find the horrible mom who loves that dad takes the kid on the weekend and she can do whatver. lol.. I sound spiteful!

 

[PappyS]

Pretend to be the nice guy, "rent-a-daddy", pay-for-all-the-ish-trick or whatever they're looking for. Then sleep with them and leave afterward. Or sleep with them regularly but keep them at arms' length while going after other women and/or doing whatever else you want.

 

[BobMo']

Most of the posters on this board, especially in the MM forum have been the3re and done that. It never works out. You're #3 in line, at best, and probably much lower (herself, kids, ex- grandparents, work, school, etc.etc., all before you).
Keep her as a plate, if you must, but do yourself a favor and be spinning other plates at the same time. then, make sure you dump her before she dumps you. That's crucial.

 

[sodbuster]

IF she left HIM, she won't want to get back. IF HE left HER, she may want to put the family back together.

 

[Falcon25]

^^^^^^^^^^^^^So true...............

 

[Warrior74]

I left my ex. for cheating and lying. She tried to come back. I just hit it and quit it. Then when she found a new guy she tried to become a vindictive ****. And told him how I was the bad one and she was poor little miss innocent. She got him in captian save a hoe mode and he thought he could talk **** to me and deny me my child visits until I flashed the heat on him. She almost got that guy killed fvcking around with me. Don't trust these single mothers, they lie. and Lie some more.

 

[Solomon]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=178965

^^this topic has been beaten to death, but I'm glad it has because we need to remind ourselves why, you guys already know how I feel

peace