Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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One key to women

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The key to getting women isn't in your looks.
It's not in the way you talk or what you say and it's not in how much money you have or how big your social circle is.


The key is literally reaching out and taking what you want.

That makes the difference between being sexual and boring, dominant and submissive, confident and insecure, active and passive, using kino and not using kino, being perceived as a man or not.


Second step? Have fun while doing it, and there you have it, with practice everything else will fall in place.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I think i understand what your saying.Your saying basically .. if you see something you like, don't just stand there .... TAKE IT!,ACT ON IT! ... etc... right?

It does work!, aslong as you don't act like a complete moron though.
 

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yeaaaaaa could you elaborate?
Sure.

What I mean is not to wait for the perfect moment, not to be afraid to escalate things etc.

Basically a specific mindset where you just act on you instincts.

No plans, just action.

No thinking, just action.

No fear, just action.
 

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Yes, you go after what you want. However you must do so in a mature & confident, assertive way. Not an aggressive, immature way. This is the difference between a man and a boy.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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The Experience

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Al Moh. said:
Sure.

What I mean is not to wait for the perfect moment, not to be afraid to escalate things etc.

Basically a specific mindset where you just act on you instincts.

No plans, just action.

No thinking, just action.

No fear, just action.
I think it would be better like this, just my opinion.

Make a plan, take action. NO planning on your original plan.

Make a thought, take action. NO thinking about your thoughts.

And yes, no fear, however most people start with fear. It's those who break through and see past fear that accomplish things, even if you failed you accomplished a way to see what not to do.
 

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Good points,

however, this is just a "I see a girl/ am with a girl" type of post. Self-improvement needs initial plans, your career needs plans, travelling needs some planning, but getting girls DOES NOT. (alright, you CAN travel without a plan, but that's another topic)


And yes, no fear, however most people start with fear. It's those who break through and see past fear that accomplish things, even if you failed you accomplished a way to see what not to do.
Exactly.
 

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what if the girl doesnt seem to want to commit, but gives mixed signals about what she wants. Dating a girl for 5 months...things are going great but she wont commit, although I havent pressed the issue for "fear" of ****ing things up. She acts like she wants only me, but she gets a lot of attention from other guys. Do I just throw myself out there?
 

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@ sticky..If your between the ages of 19-25. you shouldnt be worried about a girl commiting espcially if shes within the similar age range.that's asking to much of her and she probably is just riding the wave of your relationship ..she hasn't commited yet for the simple fact that she doesn't want to commit..If you really like her be happy with the way things are.If you want commitment .dump her find someone else because if you press it on her ..Her interest level is going to drop then she'll either leave you or cheat on you.either one wont end in your favor trust me .speaking from experience :rockon:
 

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stickyicky said:
what if the girl doesnt seem to want to commit, but gives mixed signals about what she wants. Dating a girl for 5 months...things are going great but she wont commit, although I havent pressed the issue for "fear" of ****ing things up. She acts like she wants only me, but she gets a lot of attention from other guys. Do I just throw myself out there?
I could tell right away that you're new here. :p

That's OK though...the problem is that you're really not giving enough information for anyone to make a judgement. Plus this is the "tips" forum...you'd have more success in "Don Juan Discussion".

Why are you so concerned with "commitment"? And what do you mean she "gets a lot of attention" from other guys? Is she f**king them?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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squirrels said:
I could tell right away that you're new here. :p

That's OK though...the problem is that you're really not giving enough information for anyone to make a judgement. Plus this is the "tips" forum...you'd have more success in "Don Juan Discussion".

Why are you so concerned with "commitment"? And what do you mean she "gets a lot of attention" from other guys? Is she f**king them?
"Commitment" is something I've been brought up with and its basically ingrained in my head. I used to tell my friends, "I don't know about dating HB9 idk if we're compatible enough" and they'd be like what the hell man, it's not like you're getting married.

It's something I'm still trying to shake off now, even when I know better that its not something you should concern yourself with at first, at least I don't think you should. I think this but the problem comes with really trying to believe it lol
 

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there's a great line in one of the old star trek shows where Ricardo Montalban tells a new female interest (while admiring her paintings of Leif Eriksen, Napoleon etc..) that "I warn you, Such men dare to TAKE what they want."
 

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scorpio1138 said:
there's a great line in one of the old star trek shows where Ricardo Montalban tells a new female interest (while admiring her paintings of Leif Eriksen, Napoleon etc..) that "I warn you, Such men dare to TAKE what they want."
Haha, Must be the best movie to refer too - Star Trek haha :D

Not to be mean, i just think it is hillarious :)
 
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