"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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BlackAnkle

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This isn't advice from me. I'm actually asking a question to those of you who have experience which perpetuates mine.

One Itis is a hard thing, I've learned over the years to get over it. My method is simply having multiple girls in an abundance mentality. And this works, 99% of the time. But I often get confused. Where is the line drawn between actually caring deeply for someone and A desperation filled OneItis. I want to care and be passionate, more deeply than just the hookup itself. I'm not in this community for a plethora of hookups, although that Is a fun thing. I'm here for something deeper, meeting the absolute girl of my dreams, who I'm crazy about, and who I can be totally involved with but not invested in 100%, so how could one care for someone and show them how much they care without just being a desperate, one Itis filled AFC?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I have always thought that it is only considered Oneitis when you have no chance of getting the girl. If it is a girl that you like and she likes you back then it is not Oneitis. It is simply mutual attraction which is a great thing. Don't be worried about being an AFC if you like only 1 girl. If she doesn't like you back but you still keep chasing her then you are being an AFC. But if it is a mutual attraction and you only work on getting the one girl, it is not Oneitis.
 
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Don't get too caught up in oneitis and pua acronyms. It's OK to like a girl, something I didn't fully grasp until recently. Being grounded and having good control of your emotions - often through self-improvement - or having an abundance mentality will keep oneitis away from you.
 
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