"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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NYKfan0303

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Okay, so I can basically get any girl I want in high school, except I have this one problem. There is this one girl, and I don't know why, but everytime I am near her I feel like an AFC again. I dont understand it! She's not even that hot, more like an 8 out of 10. Its so weird because I have gotten with much, much hotter girls than her. Anyone have any advice about what to do? I've been reading all the old stuff that I read a while back, and have since haven't really had too much use for because my game has been very good, but it hasn't helped too much.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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PeeGee

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Whatever it is about her needs to be disarmed and trivialized. It's as simple as that. Okay it's not as simple in practice. I hit on girls and get with them, but this one is off limits (has a bf); however there's something about her that drives me wild, and it is very difficult to treat her as a platonic friend when my natural sexual inclinations are telling me to act differently.

In your case, what is it about her that attracts you? Is it something that can be looked at objectively or compared to with other girls?
 

KontrollerX

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"but this one is off limits (has a bf); however there's something about her that drives me wild"

Whats driving you wild is the old adage "We all want what we can't have".

If the girl were suddenly single you'd probably lose interest or a great deal of interest in her.

As for you NYKfan0303 we need A LOT more information than you've given us thus far my friend.

What qualities or behavior does this girl have/exhibit that other girls don't.

Most people in response to this question would say they don't know but that is only because most people don't take the time to think!

So think hard bro!!

Does it seem she understands you better, acts more feminine, is cooler, has a certain style about her, think what it could be that puts you over the moon for this babe and then get back to us with it.
 

NYKfan0303

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KontrollerX said:
Whats driving you wild is the old adage "We all want what we can't have".

If the girl were suddenly single you'd probably lose interest or a great deal of interest in her.

As for you NYKfan0303 we need A LOT more information than you've given us thus far my friend.

What qualities or behavior does this girl have/exhibit that other girls don't.

Most people in response to this question would say they don't know but that is only because most people don't take the time to think!

So think hard bro!!

Does it seem she understands you better, acts more feminine, is cooler, has a certain style about her, think what it could be that puts you over the moon for this babe and then get back to us with it.
In response KontrollerX, I've been thinking very hard as to what it is that makes her different. It's not that she has a boyfriend or stands out physically from other girls, but it's this sort of magnetic persona that she displays, which makes her stand out in some subtle way, that I, unfortunately picked up on. Its quite unusual, as I never feel this with other women, and it leaves me feeling like an AFC again. As soon as I start flirting and such with other women, the feeling is no longer there and I'm easily able to pull numbers, etc. It is the weirdest, most odd thing that has happened to me. Luckily though, I haven't talked to her YET, although I have caught her looking at me a few times, because I'm afraid I'll blow it until I get my head straight. I've been re-reading material like rigoriously, just trying to fix this problem. It has been helping a decent amount, but I still have much progress to make, until I'm back to normal around this girl.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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