"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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NYKfan0303

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Okay, so I can basically get any girl I want in high school, except I have this one problem. There is this one girl, and I don't know why, but everytime I am near her I feel like an AFC again. I dont understand it! She's not even that hot, more like an 8 out of 10. Its so weird because I have gotten with much, much hotter girls than her. Anyone have any advice about what to do? I've been reading all the old stuff that I read a while back, and have since haven't really had too much use for because my game has been very good, but it hasn't helped too much.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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PeeGee

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Whatever it is about her needs to be disarmed and trivialized. It's as simple as that. Okay it's not as simple in practice. I hit on girls and get with them, but this one is off limits (has a bf); however there's something about her that drives me wild, and it is very difficult to treat her as a platonic friend when my natural sexual inclinations are telling me to act differently.

In your case, what is it about her that attracts you? Is it something that can be looked at objectively or compared to with other girls?
 

KontrollerX

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"but this one is off limits (has a bf); however there's something about her that drives me wild"

Whats driving you wild is the old adage "We all want what we can't have".

If the girl were suddenly single you'd probably lose interest or a great deal of interest in her.

As for you NYKfan0303 we need A LOT more information than you've given us thus far my friend.

What qualities or behavior does this girl have/exhibit that other girls don't.

Most people in response to this question would say they don't know but that is only because most people don't take the time to think!

So think hard bro!!

Does it seem she understands you better, acts more feminine, is cooler, has a certain style about her, think what it could be that puts you over the moon for this babe and then get back to us with it.
 

NYKfan0303

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KontrollerX said:
Whats driving you wild is the old adage "We all want what we can't have".

If the girl were suddenly single you'd probably lose interest or a great deal of interest in her.

As for you NYKfan0303 we need A LOT more information than you've given us thus far my friend.

What qualities or behavior does this girl have/exhibit that other girls don't.

Most people in response to this question would say they don't know but that is only because most people don't take the time to think!

So think hard bro!!

Does it seem she understands you better, acts more feminine, is cooler, has a certain style about her, think what it could be that puts you over the moon for this babe and then get back to us with it.
In response KontrollerX, I've been thinking very hard as to what it is that makes her different. It's not that she has a boyfriend or stands out physically from other girls, but it's this sort of magnetic persona that she displays, which makes her stand out in some subtle way, that I, unfortunately picked up on. Its quite unusual, as I never feel this with other women, and it leaves me feeling like an AFC again. As soon as I start flirting and such with other women, the feeling is no longer there and I'm easily able to pull numbers, etc. It is the weirdest, most odd thing that has happened to me. Luckily though, I haven't talked to her YET, although I have caught her looking at me a few times, because I'm afraid I'll blow it until I get my head straight. I've been re-reading material like rigoriously, just trying to fix this problem. It has been helping a decent amount, but I still have much progress to make, until I'm back to normal around this girl.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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