"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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one general thing and one specific

sam21

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Hi, I wanna ask about a situation I'm having and about something else...

1)

the something else is that.. I use to be a good talker, but when I'm talking to a girl I often find myself in a situation in which I'm feeling stupid, taking time to find that word I need to complete the sentence... so, that involves me into a process that takes my confidence away and gradually makes me speak at a lower level... well, I think you know what I'm talking about, but I don't think it's very common... I just FORGET words... I lose my ability to make complicated sentences... and... most of my charm is in the twist I use to do to subjects

2)

well.. now... the situation I'm in... it's very typical.. but I need help

I see this girl in university, and today we met so she gave me some notes... and when we met... we went talking and it was pretty cool, some touches over here and over there... and pretty cool eye contact, then... she started telling me about this ex boy friend of her that she haven't seen on 3 years... and that they were going out... and that he told her that he's in love with her, but she doesn't know what to do, that she had a crush on him.. but now he is fater and she sees him as another person... and bla bla bla, when she was telling me this I payed to her not all my atention, and I said then "I think you should go on, this guy may be the love of your life", then she asked me about this girl I was in love with

well I don't know, now that I put this in words... I see it pretty clear... I think it doesn't deserve a topic, but well... you guys know pretty well and it's always a pleasure to see what you got to say

so, be my guest

=)
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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DJ_in_making

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your vocab decreases? Are you nervous....?
 

DJ_in_making

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:rolleyes: I'm a senior Don Juan already? Man time flies.....
 

G-Man UK

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just a shame you need to post blank's because you've got nothing else better to say!

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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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