"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Once you act Needy....
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Again the background, we know each other well... I asked her out but she got back with her boyfriend. It was just bad timing and again she is still emotionally attached to the guy. Now she is broken up with him again... and I'm letting this one go for a longgg time.
We still talk but from now on I will not initiate it....
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PS79 said:
how much she tolerates depends on how much she likes you
It's just that we see each other once in a blue moon...very very infrequently..i mean long stretches of not seeing each other...
Even though I didn't act needy...but it might have come across as i did.... I still think we both know we have something here.
The timing may not be right...
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
But the thing with needy people is that they are never satisfied, so in the end their partner is turned off to the endless battle.
That being said, if you really just enjoy being with her, and she enjoys you too, then don't worry about being too needy. Just enjoy yourself. be satisfied
Me and my gf talk everyday, since the day we met, and never once has she called me needy, nor thought of me as such.
she says SHE's the needy one lol. wtf?
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The problem is that guys think they can make themselves look uneedy very quickly. It doesn't work like that.
It takes patience.
Sometimes weeks, months, even years.
The idea is to not 'appear' uneedy but to actually be uneedy and move on to better things. If she comes around, she does. If not, fuc* it.
For example, a few years ago I was young and ignorant. Some chick liked me, however I smothered her. It got real nasty, she told me to stop calling her and that 'yeah you're cute, but i'm not your mother' type of deal.
Long story short, haven't talked to the girl in 2 years. I see her at the bar a few months ago, she says hi. I crack a few jokes about how she changed her hair color and I move on.
Hours later, she's begging me to tell her more about my hair. Again, I say 'listen babe, it's not all about you' and walk away.
By this time her emotions were about as wet as can be so she GRABS me and starts making out with me.
Again, I push her away.
See, I didn't just go uneedy for her. I went uneedy as a person. I don't need to stoop down to her level.
It took patience, not mind games or anything like that.
So yes, it is possible. But it's not a get rich quick scheme.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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And the way to do that is to have many options/plates... Never depend on one woman for FsSandow said:
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WOMEN DONT GET NEEDY .. THEY GET "WANTY":yes: :yes:Buck Rogers said:
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Great story! Exactly the sort of **** we all need to hear.WC2 said:
I agree with the poster who said "how much she tolerates depends on how much she likes you. But it goes beyond that, I've noticed that girls who are more recently single are usually much quicker to perceive a guy as being needy (often completely wrong) but if a girl is in the frame of mind that she would like to date someone, your actions are perceived completely different. It's trick because you have to show 2 different levels of interest. A lot of it is where the girl is at in her life and we really can't see that not just the "game" we put out."She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
...that's a great way to put it.
I really don't know if she likes me.... But if I told her I wanted nothing to do with her anymore..she would want to know why and then justify it if it was something she did wrong...
If I text her something funny or banter a little bit..she'll reply. But if I sent her something too sexual or saracastically asked her out...she would completely ignore. I think the word "date" freaks her out cause its planned out and not spontaneous...
She'll talk to me if I initiate it but I have no reason to contact her at this point unless I wanted to banter with her a little bit....
Texting can never replace the face-to-face meeting
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You're wasting your time. Instead of messing around with women who are taken and who aren't interested in you, mess around with women who are single and are interested in you.PS79 said:
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I wouldn't say that but why would you even want to act needy? Are you a needy type? Are you one of those slimy creepy needy type of guys that turn women off?PS79 said:
If so why haven't you learned to become a better man?
Someone made a good post about it...it all depends on where the girl is in her life....
She just got dumped twice in a one month span by the same guy...I kind of fell in between but she went back to him. For all I know she's dumb enough to go back to him a third time... I wouldn't be surprised.
She may have never been interested and I may have just been a self-esteem boost for her.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.