"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Once married, no more Facebook for the husband?

ThisNThat

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Noticing something interesting among married people. I am noticing a trend maybe, well at least in my circles.

Saw a woman who announced this day being her 2nd anniversary to her new husband who "doesn't have Facebook anymore."

Of course, she posts all over.

I know of another married couple like this. Still in the single digits of marriage. They both had FB accounts, then eventually he faded out of FB altogether, while his wife gleefully posts away. It's kind of embarrassing when his friends wish him "Happy Birthday" and he's not there to respond. lol

People are like "Where the F did he go?!"

I know of another married woman, married 20 years, only picture she has of her husband was their wedding photo and an engagement party from that long ago. So we have no idea what he looks like now. lol

So I guess it's like "Okay, I'm married now...so no longer flirty comments and LIKES on hot chicks photos anymore, time to delete my account."

It's like marriage was the instigator of leaving Facebook?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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RangerMIke

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I see this A LOT. My brother, who is married, has to have a 'joint' Facebook account with his beloved.... what a bunch of bvll sh!t. But it isn't just married dudes, it's any guy in a relationship.... they just drop off the planet. The reason is that they don't want to have to keep defending themselves against activity on you FB site. It is part of the female skill which is nagging their man into compliance. Dudes get so sick of explaining why some random chick liked something you posted... so eventually men just stop using it.

I have a FB account, but I just use it to keep up with friends and family... not chicks.
 

lizardking82

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Men get cucked into compliance because *****, you know. Never had this happen and I would send away any girl who tries to tell me how to run my social media. It is MINE and as long as I don't tell her how to run hers, she damn right ain't sayin' a word how I run mine.

Don't comply. She gets jealous about some girl liking your posts or commenting? Let her. She testing to see how much she can move you with her nagging and bitching. I had my current plate do this a couple of days ago, she was complaining about a pic of a girl I posted (am a photographer, had posted an erotic pic of a girl from a shooting I did a while ago) and she cried on the phone for about 20 minutes. I listened to her, calmly explained what I thought needed explaining in that situation. Next day we went out, she behaved properly, like she should, and everything is cool. Could there be any resentment from her part? Might as well, but that is something apparently unavoidable. If you stop using Facebook, you been cucked and we all know how that ends.
 

Thorninmyside

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I know guys who ditched it because they were embarrassed about how much their wives posted about their lives and didn't want to see it, or just didn't want their online escape time to be also wife-oriented with being tagged in stupid sh!t every second day. "Honey, did you see that link I posted on facebook?".
 

stovepipe

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Whats facebook?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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