On your death bed....what will you wish you had done more of.........

[Reykhel]

What do you think you may regret not doing more of when you're lying there...?

Hint: it won't be wishing you had spent more time at the office nor will it be fretting over some dumb bytch....

 

[BlueAlpha1]

What do you think you may regret not doing more of when you're lying there...?

Hint: it won't be wishing you had spent more time at the office nor will it be fretting over some dumb bytch....

Cool thread.

Nothing wrong with chasing money, but you hear so often of men who regret spending too much time at the office. A lot of people wish they could have traveled more, and I have blessed enough to have the opportunity to get to 20 US states and about 15 countries by age 27. But I would like the see about half the globe before I die. I have also found I have spent a lot of my most valuable years (my 20s) wasting time on the internet when I should have defined a goal in my head, working towards it every day, toward a final product to leave behind in this world - be it my ideas (writing an actual paperback book that can remain on library shelves, not an ebook that will be compromised when someone eventually owns the internet), an invention, or a company I created.

For me, travel is a great hobby that I want to do a lot of, but wandering aimlessly is not good enough. I need to be offering something to the people of this world as I go to their countries, because very few obituaries strike a nerve when they read "Bob was a loyal employee of Big Sausage Factory for 32 years, and he enjoyed gardening in his spare time." You might respect Bob, but do you think he was happy with that on his deathbed?

 

[Reykhel]

Cool thread.

Nothing wrong with chasing money, but you hear so often of men who regret spending too much time at the office. A lot of people wish they could have traveled more, and I have blessed enough to have the opportunity to get to 20 US states and about 15 countries by age 27. But I would like the see about half the globe before I die. I have also found I have spent a lot of my most valuable years (my 20s) wasting time on the internet when I should have defined a goal in my head, working towards it every day, toward a final product to leave behind in this world - be it my ideas (writing an actual paperback book that can remain on library shelves, not an ebook that will be compromised when someone eventually owns the internet), an invention, or a company I created.

For me, travel is a great hobby that I want to do a lot of, but wandering aimlessly is not good enough. I need to be offering something to the people of this world as I go to their countries, because very few obituaries strike a nerve when they read "Bob was a loyal employee of Big Sausage Factory for 32 years, and he enjoyed gardening in his spare time." You might respect Bob, but do you think he was happy with that on his deathbed?

Don't get me wrong: I say a lot of things about not been attached to ****e etc but I very much live in the real world. Money is fvcking essential. Only a fool would completely dismiss money. But of course, we are back to the old question: are you working for money or is money working for you. I'v tried not to get too attached to money, while still trying to make it work for me......but I'll be honest and say perhaps I haven't totally arrived at that place yet (being unattached ). I still listen to about 3 financial podcasts weekly. I still believe that only a fool doesn't bother to educated himself enough (financially speaking)

However, we must address our priorities. We must eliminate needless ****e from our lives and incorporate more life enhancing activities and projects........

.......and really, should I worry about mary what's her name or should I concern myself with my 6 month trip to south east asia....

Priorities gents. And fun.

 

[Dingo]

There will be so much that I will regret and not regret.....

 

[dustmuffin]

Regret is a waste of emotion. What will I regret? Nothing.....I have done the best that I can do and am working on doing better. Thinking back on what I could have done better is BS. Concentrate on what you have done well and enjoy what little time you have left on this earth. Concentrate on that.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Well, all I'm saying is that I want to look back and say that I did I the best I could while I was stuck in this place. Had as much fun as I could while I was stuck in this place. Played as hard as I could while I was stuck in this place... Dogged as many girls as I could while I was stuck in this place.

 

[Ronaldo7]

Harness your mind. Developing one's talents fully.

The biggest waste in life is unfulfilled talents.

 

[Tenacity]

What do you think you may regret not doing more of when you're lying there...?

Even though I feel as though I would have accomplished pretty much (or at least most) of what I set out to do.....I believe I would always feel as though I didn't do enough.

- That maybe even though I called out bullshyt and injustices around me....maybe I didn't do it loud enough.

- That maybe even though I fought to build X, Y, and Z....there was an R, S, and P that didn't get built.

- That maybe even though I used my life as an example to inspire others....that there was still someone who died, gave up on a vision, quit, dropped out, etc., that I could have saved but didn't.

- That maybe even though I fought against bullshyt at times......there were times I didn't fight enough.

I'm of the firm belief that nothing just HAPPENS. Everything around you is mostly a result of the choices, decisions, and actions of another MAN. If you don't like what you see, YOU have the power to change it.

But with everybody being so "politically correct", wanting to "fit in", and not wanting to "ruffle feathers"......we instead do not fight the injustices hard enough, we do not fight to create the needed inventions fast enough, we do not research harder to find the cure, and we do not pool the money together to fund the CHANGE.

All I'm saying is.....don't die wishing you would have FOUGHT harder. Fight everyday like it's your last. I would rather die fighting, than to just sit there and let life take free hits at me.

 

[CuddleJunkie]

By nature we will always be incomplete, and all of our projects will have to remain that way too. It's just human nature, we have a finite amount of will, energy, and time. Now, about regretting, you should only regret your own incapability to actually DO the work, not your failure to succeed. As long as you are sure you did everything in your power to achieve whatever you were trying to achieve, you don't have any reason to feel any regrets.

As for me; and I'm still too young to be asking these questions, I'm afraid of marrying young due to my social conditioning (having a family as a good thing is a strong belief in my mind) and then regretting it. I hope I will have sufficient insight and wise advice if that times comes.

 

[Bingo-Player]

i have this conversation with family / friends on almost a weekly basis

i am getting to an age where people are telling me i need to take more responsibility on in life .....buy a house , get a stable relationship , have children , save loads of money blah blah blah

my answer is always the same "why the fvck would i want to do that" i have a job , i pay my rent , car insurance , phone bill and gym membership

to be perfectly honest that's more than enough "responsibility" for me , responsibility is a grown up word for boring

designed by society to keep you in line , to keep you in the format

people seem to think they will live forever ,problem is what use are all those "rules" you've spent your entire life obeying all that money you've saved and all that property you've bought what use is it all when you are dead ......


no thanks

 

[mrgoodstuff]

i have this conversation with family / friends on almost a weekly basis

i am getting to an age where people are telling me i need to take more responsibility on in life .....buy a house , get a stable relationship , have children , save loads of money blah blah blah

my answer is always the same "why the fvck would i want to do that" i have a job , i pay my rent , car insurance , phone bill and gym membership

to be perfectly honest that's more than enough "responsibility" for me , responsibility is a grown up word for boring

designed by society to keep you in line , to keep you in the format

people seem to think they will live forever ,problem is what use are all those "rules" you've spent your entire life obeying all that money you've saved and all that property you've bought what use is it all when you are dead ......


no thanks

One reason for acquiring material and financial wealth is it can be passed on to offspring and family. You don't have to spend it all while you are here.

 

[Bingo-Player]

One reason for acquiring material and financial wealth is it can be passed on to offspring and family. You don't have to spend it all while you are here.

yes but not everyone has offspring or a family they would want to leave anything too

 

[mrgoodstuff]

yes but not everyone has offspring or a family they would want to leave anything too

Maybe a special friend became family or someone you wanted to bless.

 

[Who Dares Win]

I believe Tenacity has a point, the regret wouldnt be not seeing monuments built from someone else millennia ago but fail to fight for what you believed was right.

"Im going to die soon but the world is a better place because of me, I made right of what was wrong" sounds much better to me than "I got rich, had fun, banged girls got a selfie at the eiffel tower".

 

[playa99]

I intend on not having any regrets on my death bed.

If I were on my deathbed now....

I would regret not focusing on work when I should be.
I would regret being anxious over pointless Sh!t.
I would regret not putting 100% into my dreams.
I would regret the stupid nights out which cost me a fortune and gave me nothing but a stinking hangover!

 

[Floydispink01]

I'll regret not doing these -

1. Explore all the continents on the planet. I'm 4/7 of the way through.
2. Attend a South American football match.
3. Attend an NFL game in the states.
4. Sky dive.
5. South Pole expedition would be cool as f also.
6. Watch more gigs.
7. Motorcycle a country.
8. Sell Art on street.

thats at the top of my head.

 

[Filter]

Travel.

 

[Roober]

Agree with most on travel here. Hopefully, by the time I reach my death bed, I will not have any regrets or things I wish I had done more.

I am beginning to believe more and more that the marriage, kids, buy a house is some veil brought over all of our eyes by the machine we call democracy. By following this formula, we basically hamstring ourselves into a world of monotony. I can't tell you how many people I have encountered that give the same tired response... "I want to do this, but..." then list of reasons of money, kids, etc. Imagine if more people in society actually pursued their dreams to help advance us as a species? Imagine where we would be as a civilization?

Instead, the masses follow "the formula" while a small group of people actually pursue their dreams and realize their success. The formula is the ultimate control mechanism driven by the fear of failure. It is the exact same thing that landed most of us on this website. The fear of losing our girl, thereby losing her in the process.

Do I practice what I preach? Well, I walked away from a good marriage with a wife that would give me the world. We own a house in Silicon Valley (not an easy feat) and were very comfortable. I have begun my journey and my biggest regret will be if I do not complete it...

 

[Filter]

Agree with most on travel here. Hopefully, by the time I reach my death bed, I will not have any regrets or things I wish I had done more.

I am beginning to believe more and more that the marriage, kids, buy a house is some veil brought over all of our eyes by the machine we call democracy. By following this formula, we basically hamstring ourselves into a world of monotony. I can't tell you how many people I have encountered that give the same tired response... "I want to do this, but..." then list of reasons of money, kids, etc. Imagine if more people in society actually pursued their dreams to help advance us as a species? Imagine where we would be as a civilization?

Instead, the masses follow "the formula" while a small group of people actually pursue their dreams and realize their success. The formula is the ultimate control mechanism driven by the fear of failure. It is the exact same thing that landed most of us on this website. The fear of losing our girl, thereby losing her in the process.

Do I practice what I preach? Well, I walked away from a good marriage with a wife that would give me the world. We own a house in Silicon Valley (not an easy feat) and were very comfortable. I have begun my journey and my biggest regret will be if I do not complete it...

Good luck, man. Totally agree, by the way.

I'm in my twenties so it's easy to dismiss marriage right now... but I feel it gets harder and harder as you get older and the thought of dying alone becomes a reality. Have a buddy who Armied up, has been divorced, etc. Dude just bangs wh0res now. Told me marriage is 90% fear of dying alone in his eyes.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

I see where the point of this thread and agree to an extent.

It has occurred to me lately, that one can be overly pious in his attitude, adopting lofty expectations of not only himself, but also others, forming unrealistic, contrived holier-than-thou opinions and rules.

For example; exclaiming frantically that women and money should come rock bottom of the list of priorities is certainly honorable, at least as a neo-Buddhist mantra kind of thing. However, how many guys will actually fulfill or even really want to live by that mantra, is something quite different.

Women and money should remain important parts of our lives (anyone who denies that, especially here, is quite literally suffering a serious case of denial). [Though money is slightly different because it's simply a system or exchange, to which we have no alternative currently.]

The cure for over-enthusiasm or over-indulgence isn't (always) suppression of one's innate drives and desires. For me, a better cure (as such) is learning to mold those drives in to differing, more positive and productive forms.

Suppression and oppression are not the answer though; look how that works out for (many) religious types.