"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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On the Taboo of Knowing Oneself

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Dunno it. But Alan Watts is good. I have The Wisdom of Insecurity in my Amazon wishlist.

Will give it a try but I hate reading PDFs. I've just bought a Kindle so I will be able to read those e-books in the comfort of my sofa without the blue light striking my brain cells.
 

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Dunno it. But Alan Watts is good. I have The Wisdom of Insecurity in my Amazon wishlist.

Will give it a try but I hate reading PDFs. I've just bought a Kindle so I will be able to read those e-books in the comfort of my sofa without the blue light striking my brain cells.
I've got a Kobo, which has one good thing going, which is that I can download any PDF onto it. If you don't like blue light, like myself, try downloading f.lux. It eliminates the blue light and functions in a custom mode, or follows the sun at your location.
 

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I've got a Kobo, which has one good thing going, which is that I can download any PDF onto it. If you don't like blue light, like myself, try downloading f.lux. It eliminates the blue light and functions in a custom mode, or follows the sun at your location.
Ah nice ! Will give f.lux a try. Thanks.
 
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