Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I´ve read this text. Man, it´s liberating!
It's one of my favorites articles. Let me correct my self, it´s my favorite article.

I love the structure of the Super hunter´s mind.

How is it possible for it to disregard so easily thoughts and emotions? I mean, it all sounds good in theory, but I would love to hear from your experiencie guys about how you actually DO that, it's a little abstract.

I always wanted to have a mind like that :D !
It's a ****ing computer!
It sounds a little far fetched for me... what do you guys think, is such a level of control of one´s mind and actions possible?

I mean... "feel down about girls, reflecting at that" then, shake off the feeling, go out and have fun... and I mean, how the **** do you erase the feeling... or change it... I mean, yes, positive thinking... but HOW?
I hope you understand what I'm asking here... I'm looking for concrete answers.

Another part I loved is when it describes that "I don't give a ****" about the envioroment, other people ideas, actions, etc, attitude.

How do you develop that "I don't give a ****" attitude.

Thanks guys.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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stop caring about what people think of you, then you have the I dont give a fvck attitude
 

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Yeah, I know that's what I need to acomplish.
The point is HOW I do it?
I'm at times very self conciuos, I'm at class for example and before asking a question, I fear ppl will think i'm stupid for asking this or that, or that they'll laugh, etc.

The point is my mind creates that insecurity thoughts, how do yo stop caring?
 

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I'd say, a combination between Social Proof and Dedication. Once you have the mentality you might need less or none Social Proof since you're already there.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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