"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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On the Dancefloor

sandinista

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OK. I go clubbing fairly regualry. I love dancing and i think i've developed into a really good one.

Now, when i'm on the dancefloor i see guys dancing with women, & they're always going to their ear and saying something, the girl laughs, she says something back, etc.

Now, if i'm dancing with a girl i've usually already talked with her for a while. When we finally get up and dance.. i can't think of anything to say. I've even had them put their to ear towards my mouth expecting me to say something.. and when i don't say anything, they give me a look that says ALL interest in me has vanished.

What the hell kinds of things do you say while on the dancefloor?
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Owned

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Bull**** like you would do everywhere else....

In the dancefloor = regular pickup except with body movement..
 

zerocelcius

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"was that your foot?"
"damn girl you can move like that?"
"SOLD"
"Shake it Like a Polaroid Picture" or "shake it like a Salt Shaker"
"come here and do that"
"I know moracas that can't shake that good"
"was your mama a rattle snake, cause you can shake that tail"


Look I am being stupid and throwing them out there, but it is like anything else have fun, and keep her laughing while letting her know the Sexual Ritual known as Dancing is working.

Remember you can be a good dancer but when you do it alone.... it is like masturbating. Dancing is Dry fu***ng to music. Simple dance like you would f***.
 

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Originally posted by zerocelcius
"was that your foot?"
"was your mama a rattle snake, cause you can shake that tail"
HAHA that's funny :D
 

Sart

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dancing

I fukcing hate dancing I always feel stupid. I don't lack rythm per se but it just looks so stupid when I watch others so I avoid it like the plague.

If you have the guts to do it, good on you, wish I did but just don't.
 

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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Re: dancing

Originally posted by Sart
I fukcing hate dancing I always feel stupid. I don't lack rythm per se but it just looks so stupid when I watch others so I avoid it like the plague.

If you have the guts to do it, good on you, wish I did but just don't.
Time for some dance classes.

Also, watch the music video "Weapon of Choice".
 

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Thanks for the replies. But.. i dunno.
Saying "yeah, shake it like a poleroid" just isn't.. me. I'd feel stupid saying that.

any other suggestions?
My mind is always at a complete blank when i'm in this situation.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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I never have serious conversations on the dance floor. When you're out there with a woman it's your chance to see if there's any physical chemistry between you, IT'S KINO TIME! Whatever I say on the dancefloor is geared toward c/f and getting the woman to feel even more comfortable with me. Understand that we had already chatted at the bar or somewhere else before we got onto the dancefloor.

Yeah, I'll toss out lines like "Alright, now let me check you from the back," or take her by the hips and say "you're a little off beat, here let me help you" yeah, it's corny but if you are a good dancer they will more times than not go along with it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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California Love

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Dancing is a great way to connect with women (not grinding). If you are a good dancer, you shouldn't have to speak a single word. Stay with her a few songs and then signal for her to sit down with you afterwards to talk.
 

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man on the dancefloor come on now, let me tell you that all them men u see talking to females on their ear, think about it do you think that u can hold a conversation while u are dancing?... all that they are saying to them is straight up bs plain and simple bs just to make them laugh and show some interest and whatnot.

Me personally im a very good dancer and normally i dont talk while dancing neither do they cause we are both concentrated in dancing and in how good we dance etc... but every couple of songs ill just dance a lil bit lighter and talk to the girl and just say, some bs like, " i see that u like to dance this song" or "dam u move good girl" "dont hurt yourself now" (works very good when u are grinding on a girl and she is backing it up on you)

but for me this things come naturally, those are a few of them though, wateva u do dont say the samething twice to the same girl for the rest of the night just once.
 

California Love

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Originally posted by bfl
man on the dancefloor come on now, let me tell you that all them men u see talking to females on their ear, think about it do you think that u can hold a conversation while u are dancing?... all that they are saying to them is straight up bs plain and simple bs just to make them laugh and show some interest and whatnot.

Me personally im a very good dancer and normally i dont talk while dancing neither do they cause we are both concentrated in dancing and in how good we dance etc... but every couple of songs ill just dance a lil bit lighter and talk to the girl and just say, some bs like, " i see that u like to dance this song" or "dam u move good girl" "dont hurt yourself now" (works very good when u are grinding on a girl and she is backing it up on you)

but for me this things come naturally, those are a few of them though, wateva u do dont say the samething twice to the same girl for the rest of the night just once.
Exactly! Keep at it, playa :D
 
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