on/off bf

[gymshorts]

I can tell that this girl is head over heels over me. She is constantly flirting and sending all the signals imagineable. Its been going on for some time now. The only problem is that shes had a bf this whole time. About two weeks ago, she did break up with her bf, but now they are working it out or something. It is a really wierd situation, and idk how to handle it. I dont want to really put myself in a love triangle, but as each day passes, i feel myself falling for this girl more and more. I cant help it, its natural. The other problem is that im a senior and shes a junior and i will be graduation in june and going to college in august, so i dont have all the time in the world. What should i do?

 

[Michele l'Arcangelo]

i'll make this one quick.



you can tell she's head over heels for you...

she had a b/f...

but she was messing around with you...

she broke up with her boyfriend...



now shes keeping him on a string until you make a move, or you take too long...

now so she can either cut the string connected to her old boyfriend (if you make a move), or reel him back in (if you take too long).



k.

 

[gymshorts]

how do i go about making a move if she is trying to "fix things up with her bf" and when asked by other ppl, she is still in a relationship with him. It is a very tricky thing, and i dont want to be known by the guy that goes after girls with bfs already. I think im going to be at a party with her tomorrow night and she never ever comes with her bf and even when she does, she is all over me a lot of the time. We never kissed or anything like that, just to make it clear, but we flirt all the time.

 

[Michele l'Arcangelo]

well if you both end up at the party sitting next to each other and she's all over you... and you want to make your move... be straight with her and ask "did you get back together with your boyfriend?"

if she says "no," make your move...

if she says "yes," tell her "that's too bad, maybe next time "

who knows... if you can tease her and build her attraction THAT night, she might even call her "boyfriend" up THAT night and break it off completely. even then, keep teasing her.

teasing as in how girls tease guys with suggestive things they say or with half naked pictures of themselves... don't tease her with "oh i got your nose!!!" <== (well maybe corniness can build attraction too)

well i guess... just flirt... i couldn't think of the word then.

 

[gymshorts]

yeah, i totally get what youre saying. Thanks a lot. You always seem to give the best advice around here, and i appreciate the time. Ill let every1 know how it goes in the near future and ill keep coming back with more questions.

 

[gymshorts]

turns out there was no party today and i did see her with her bf earlier in the day. When i see them they are together and sh!t, but i never see them kissing or doing anything affectionate which leads me to believe there is nothing there. I am kind of thinking that she is in teh middle right now and doesnt know what she really wants, and I'm not sure that if i make a move now that things will turn out so well. Am i right?

 

[Michele l'Arcangelo]

change her mind... make her want you

get her interested first... make her want you second... then make your move.

i won't need to explain like my million other replies... if you know the basis of this site... you should know how...

 

[gymshorts]

yeah, i know how, but i was just wondering if it was the right time since she really doesnt know what she wants.

 

[Michele l'Arcangelo]

when would a perfect time be?

keep asking yourself that.

seriously... i'll wait... go ahead

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by the time you figure it out... it's too late (unless you just go for it, maybe not).

it's better to go for something, win OR lose... than not going for something then automatically losing.

 

[gymshorts]

yeah, youre right, f*ck it, its my senior year, whatever, things wont matter 5 months from now anyway, so i might as well just go for it. Thanks and ill keep you updated.

 

[gymshorts]

well tonight this girl texts me out of the blue...i was pleasantly surprised. She was just bullsh*tting with me and then i asked her to go out to lunch tomorrow. SHe told me that she couldnt b/c it was her friends bday and she was going out to lunch with her. Then she asked me what i was doing tonight. I wasnt doing anything and i knew she wasnt so i told her that i was going to pick her up. She then tells me that shes out with her friend, which im not sure is true or not. I then stop talking to her. About an hour or so later, she texts me again. SHe then casually mentions that she is over her bf house, but its nothing special. I am still confused with this girl. We havent gotten closer and everyday she practically rapes me in the hallway, but nothing has materialized. I sort of have a feeling that her friend was c0ckblocking me tonight or she was putting me through some tests. Idk, it was kinda wierd. Is she interested or just playing games with me? Whats your opinion on the situation?

 

[Trend]

Just say **** it, its just drama being built up, shes an attention ***** and she likes the attention you give her. Start ignoring her and see what she does. She might end up just wanting you even more. Just go by these two little words and you can solve pretty much any odd high school situation "**** Drama" When it starts up just deuce on out of there.

 

[gymshorts]

Yeah, but there was no drama here. I am wondering if persistence will pay off in this situation. Show her that i dont let obstacles get in my way.

 

[Trend]

Yeah, but there was no drama here. I am wondering if persistence will pay off in this situation. Show her that i dont let obstacles get in my way.

shes just a flirty attention *****, ignore her and yes their could be drama with this bf of hers.

The whole obstacles thing can go both ways, she can say you never give up and that shows persistance or that its creepy.

 

[gymshorts]

could it just be that she was with her friend and they were just testing me to see how i would react

 

[gymshorts]

well, what do some other ppl think?

 

[gymshorts]

well she was less flirty today, but she still tried to talk to me, and i did ignore her. I was wondering if i should just be straight up with her and tell her that i think that she jerked me off the other night giving me BS lines. What do you think?

 

[eminence]

no.

 

[THE_ADDMAN]

how bout u think for urself and stop being a puppet to her actions?

next time she flirts, ask her out. if she says anything but a resounding YES. she is not interested.


then this is the part where you talk to the other girls who live on this planet