"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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JeetKuneDating

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i need some insight on eye contact...

what constitutes interest on her part? because everyone looks around the bar and accidentally catches the gaze of another sometimes. how do u discern an accidental eye lock from an eye lock of interest?

for example: last night i was at a bar and there were 2 specifics who i kept making eye contact w/ - more than several times. should we call once an accident, 2 times a possibility and 3 and above the go-ahead to introduce ureself?

i realize its not a good idea to start putting this to a formula, but its a good indicator i think...a good gauge of how an introduction would go.

what of it?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Have you ever been in a "Glance War?" Happens to me all of the time. Basically, you keep meeting a person's glance over and over and over, sometimes more than a dozen times. It's pretty awkward and it's tough to escape. This usually happens when you're confined to one area...in a class, for example. I've had glance wars with HBs and non HBs alike. I don't think they mean anything. They could be glancing just because you are...it's hard not to.
 

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first things first...RELAX...secondly if you havent approached a girl by the second glance she WILL start to think your a wuss or worse yet a stalker. Remember this...if she makes eye contact and you force her to break it and she looks again GO FOR IT. Sometimes you wont be so lucky to get a second glance.
 

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Originally posted by redCobra1
first things first...RELAX...secondly if you havent approached a girl by the second glance she WILL start to think your a wuss or worse yet a stalker. Remember this...if she makes eye contact and you force her to break it and she looks again GO FOR IT. Sometimes you wont be so lucky to get a second glance.
this much is true
 

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Usualy after the first or second time meating their eyes is when I go for it. Oh yea, always remember...never be the first to break eye contact.

Have you taken the time to preform a search? Theirs a little button up their somewhere that says search, click it, type eye contact, and holy crap....information galore.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by WaRpEd


Have you taken the time to preform a search? Theirs a little button up their somewhere that says search, click it, type eye contact, and holy crap....information galore.
are you a mod? why do you care?
 

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i think eye contact is key...for the record


good tip on the "dont break eye contact first." i'll keep that in mind
 

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You wouldn't hit a pop fly and just stand there in the batter's box, would you?

Getting eye contact and not introducing yourself is the same thing.

Run it out.
 

JeetKuneDating

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bad analogy...lotta players hit pop flys and just watch it. maybe a grounder. ure not gonna hit a hot grounder up the middle and just watch it...

but yeah, good way of lookin at it
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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