"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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On dating your boss.

Yuma

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Specifically, your boss/manager/supervisor/whatever.

How many of you guys or girls (there are a few, right?) here have been in this type of situation before? Is there any sort of guide to this? Advice, do's and don'ts, "no, don't do it. leave it be."'s?

Basically, I just got a job at my old school as a dorm manager and the woman who hired is a complete knock-out. Definitely bangin' on all cylinders. Beautiful blonde, great body, that sexy schoolteacher appeal, and young. Maybe early 30's at most. And, I'm 23 and couldn't care less how old she is haha. She'd met me once or twice when I was a student, but I was basically treated like a staff member, and we were in a couple of commitees together (one was actually an EEO), but I digress. There's been a subtle flirt between us as far as I can recognize since I was a student, and most definitely during the job interview. Signs of attraction, a lot of smiling and laughing, fumbling over words every now and then (and she's a bright lady, too. not like her).

Anyway, IF there is a genuine attraction, what would be the best way to go about this? Not for a quick lay or anything, but... like, to date the girl.


Thoughts? or should I just go ahead and an-hero now?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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The more time you spend with the girl also means the more chances of ****ing up. I suggest going for a quick lay.
 

Yuma

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SeymourCake said:
I suggest going for a quick lay.

Eh. If that's what it comes down to. But, I'm thinking that could be an egregious boo boo when it comes down to the fact that she's my boss. At first glance, neither the situation nor the girl seem ripe for just a quick fvck. Detrimental, I guess is the word, to the employment factor.
 

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Don't think differently about her, don't treat her different, and don't give her special special privileges just because she's your boss. View her as any other person. For the sake of keeping your job, I wouldn't risk it.
 

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Smarten up. My pal just lost his job for sleeping with supervisor. It was fine until sh1t went sideways between them. Then she brought the drama to work and got him written up and fired. Of course its partially his fault as he let her push his buttons at work and got him to act out and thus fired. Its too rough of a job market to put employment at risk right now.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Dont do it!

Yes - I am that guy that lost his job. I fit the cliche. When I was 18 I tried it. I dont even remember the woman's name but I do remember the impact it had on my life as an 18 year old on his own going through college. After losing my job the next three months were downtrodden hell.

In this crap economy it is difficult to find gainful employment. No pvssy is worth losing your job over.

To echo Warrior74 things just went weird. She was talking about having kids (WTF) and it scared the hell out of me (being 18 at the time). I broke it off and she broke me off!
 

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Stay away. Screwing your peers is ill-advised but not terrible, but your boss is a big no-no. Things go south, and you're fired.
 

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Thanks for the sound advice, fellas.

I think I'm just gonna leave it be. She's certainly not the only woman around.
 
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