"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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On American Women

STR8UP

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I was reading roissy's latest blog post about how the men of the world in general view American women.

I don't know where this poster is from, but it's interesting to hear it right from the horse's mouth:

spacemoose said:
Where I come from, the views on American women are rather stereotypical, but that doesn’t mean that they’re not right. If anything, I have yet to meet one who doesn’t match most or all of them. Keep in mind that these are American exchange students.

1. Too ****ing loud. Seriously. Everyone I know has at least once experienced the joy of sitting in a restaurant, having a nice chat with friends, and the whole thing being interrupted with “OH MY GOD” followed by stream-of-consciousness bull**** from across the room. My theory is that since most American women talk a lot but say nothing, they add both quantity and volume to their speech so people with lesser bull**** detectors won’t notice that she has been going on about nothing for what seems like an eternity.

2. Whorish. Easy. Absolutely not marriage material. Over here we have a distinction between girls: Those you marry and those you have fun with. Even the slightest suggestion of American women falling into the former category would be met with ridicule and laughter.

3. Man-like. Lacking in modesty. I’m sure that (sadly) the **** American women do no longer shocks American men that much, but coming from a culture where women are more reserved, the **** they do and say is just cringe-worthy.

4. Did you notice the overall theme? A complete and utter lack of shame, modesty and humility. At first it seems like a breath of fresh air compared to local girls, but damn does it get tiresome and annoying in no time. You could never brag about dating an American girl here. Your parents would be dismayed at best, and even your friends would at most give you the congratulatory “at least she’s putting out” slap on the back. But bringing her along to social events with locals? You’d have to be out of your ****ing mind, unless you want to experience a lethal dose of awkwardness. It would probably be the first recorded case of someone dying from shame. And I don’t mean suicide, I mean dropping dead after a massive muscle spasm from cringing too much.
Contrast this to the fact that American men are almost universally LOVED by women the world over, and it becomes readily apparent just how undesirable American women are when it comes to the mating game. And this is what American men have to deal with every day.

Seriously.....we're fishing in a pond that has been polluted with the feminist entitlement mentality that has turned our women into a bunch of loud mouthed men with t!ts.

I'm sure this thread will turn into the usual circle-jerk of halfway reformed AFC's defending the fact that there are indeed TWO decent women in each and every state of the Union, but I would like to engage in a REAL discussion about the HUUUUUUGE disparity between the REST of the world's attitude toward American women vs. American men insofar as the mating game is concerned.

As American men we have little means of comparison, unless we happen to visit foreign lands (which I have).

It seems to me that men from other countries might be a more accurate gauge of the quality of our women we are stuck with.

Oh yea, see my post at 7:05pm. I've said it here many times before, but that's my plan. Ride out the next few years dealing with this Ameritrash, then hop the pond to find a nice, FEMININE woman.

Frankly, I can't wait.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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American women have the worst reputation around the world as LTR/wife materials. Europe, Latin America, Asia, Africa etc. no guy wants to marry an American woman. Remember this is about stereotypes and reputation. It may be different for individuals.

Not sure about American men being loved universally, but you guys don't have such a bad rep.
 

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I'm with you buddy. I'm sick of ball busting *****es here in America. Nothing is good enough for the pretty ones- its a combination of both feminism, ****ty media portrayals/role models, and too many betas spoiling them that leads to this toxic entitled attitude.

This, in combination with unfair legal system that financially cripples men with unjust levels of alimony, child support, and property deprivation in event of a divorce makes marriage an idiotic proposition in the US.

If you want a family one day, and not just some Ameri-skank for sex, your best bet is to set up a finanicial system that allows you to live in a country in which the law respects your position as patriarch of your family while simultaenously allows you to protect your hard earned assets from the potential prediations of an amoral manipulative parasite.

The last thing I want to do is work hard for some many years only to have it all stolen away from me by some bytch who decides she wants sole custody of the children and all my shyt because, for whatever reason, I don't make her vag tingle anymore.
 

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I agree.

But you don't need to step out of the country to find a suitable candidate. Focus on women who have either immigrated or are first born here. These women for the most part were raised with traditional values and have the understanding of appropriate gender roles. Scoop them up young before their minds are corrupted by their American girlfriends.
 

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guru1000 said:
I agree.

But you don't need to step out of the country to find a suitable candidate. Focus on women who have either immigrated or are first born here. These women for the most part were raised with traditional values and have the understanding of appropriate gender roles. Scoop them up young before their minds are corrupted by their American girlfriends.
Foreign women in America is like putting fresh food in a dirty dish- eventually it spoils. -Pook

The vast majority of women aren't angels, they're corruptable beings; and divorce laws give them a huge amount of legal power over the men they're married to- and you know what Lord Acton said about power. It corrupts.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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guru1000 said:
I agree.

But you don't need to step out of the country to find a suitable candidate. Focus on women who have either immigrated or are first born here. These women for the most part were raised with traditional values and have the understanding of appropriate gender roles. Scoop them up young before their minds are corrupted by their American girlfriends.
My longest relationship was with a hot 21 yr old Filipina who was born in the Philippines. Best relationship I ever had while it lasted, but it ended typical American style with her cheating on me.

Second best was with a 2nd generation Cuban. That one might have actually worked out had I met her at a different point in my life.

Bottom line- this is like saying that you should play the casino across the street with 1-5 odds as opposed to the one across town with 10-1 odds.

Hey, if I happen to find the diamond in the rough 'round these parts....great. But I know the odds are stacked against me for FINDING a decent woman, let alone KEEPING her, so I will stick to my plan.
 

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I am not American. I wasn't born here. I will tell you this; We see American women as something you fuvk. You should never marry an American. 65 percent divorce rate doesn't speak for itself?
 

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She divorces, get's half. Then she gets money for kids. Then, she brings kids like it's a petting zoo once a week. No thanks. I am going back home once I get my ****t together and find me something a little better. It's bad everywhere now, but I want a woman that is feminine and sincere.
 

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Agreed almost completely. But what makes you think American men are so damn alpha?

Do you think everybody is enlightened as you guys are? Most of them are puppets, even the toughest American guy is basically designed to put up with all the sh!t American women are putting up every day.

I live here and all my friends are American, and all of them are sadly AFCs... Whenever we pick up this argument, they shut me up and treat me like a caveman with a high libido and no indulgence for women. Ironically, I am accused of "worshipping women" around here...
 

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And you think that all that stuff is only related to american women? u wont find almosto any difference in western europe too once you're not anymore just a tourist.
Feminism and media worked the same,oh sorry i meant american media worked the same since we have the same movies in theaters.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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even the toughest American guy is basically designed to put up with all the sh!t American women are putting up every day.
And they were taught it being raised by american women. The empire is crumbling. There's no stopping this cycle. The only hope you have is on the individual level.
 

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I guess you just have to know where to look/where to live. We have a honey hole of wholesome, attractive, rich family/educated, southern values women here in LR, AR. The best places to look here are the wealthy churches (whether you're religious are not). Your local Barnes and Nobles works sometimes too (again, here in Southern LR, AR).

If you're in, say NY or Miami, and your main target area is your local pub, then I can completely understand the OP's generalization. Because I don't live in those places, I don't have a great suggestion for those areas. But you can bet your ass if I was single and lived there, I'd figure it out.

There's so many things in life where you can either 1. make excuses and have pity parties or 2. monitor and adjust. I love asking myself, "How can I get what I want in the situation I'm in?". It's extremely rare that I draw blanks. This issue would be no exception.
 

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So what's the desire/attraction for the American male? Especially if most men are AFCs and are too weak to go after what they want?

Why do foreign women want American men? Is there a stereotype THEY are seeking? I would assume they don't know what most men in America are like. If they DID know would their desire change?
 

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azanon said:
I guess you just have to know where to look/where to live. We have a honey hole of wholesome, attractive, rich family/educated, southern values women here in LR, AR. The best places to look here are the wealthy churches (whether you're religious are not). Your local Barnes and Nobles works sometimes too (again, here in Southern LR, AR).
I agree.

I spent two year at UNC a long while ago, and as the 'token Aussie" on campus, I slashed my way through quite a selection of your fine wholesome southern belles.
They do indeed have a different 'way' about them down there.
 

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Part of my job is to travel. I'm in Europe (Netherlands, Germany, Belgium and France) generally twice a year. And I can say I've noticed definite shifts in demeanor among women there in contrast to American women. I'm not sure it's necessarily an ethnic issue, but certainly a cultural one. I've been to Aruba and Panama this year as well and from a Latin perspective I don't see these women as any more reserved than American women, however they have a definite masculine expectation for their Men. A Man has to live up to being a Man in Panamanian culture.

And I think that the double standard guys will run into in pointing out "how American women are" is that they'll be accused of not being Man enough to handle them. You'll get the standard "powerful women are a threat to men's egos" line. So the Catch 22 becomes a guy being dominant enough to master her as the abuser and the one pointing out her flaws being the whiney b!tch who needs to man-up.

I like Pooks dirty dish analogy, but it doesn't go far enough. It's not America in particular that's the problem, it's global westernization of other cultures that's spreading and part of that is the Matrix.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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What RT's post reminded me of is simply the fact that instilling a lot of DJ principles into your relationship will go a long way towards molding a woman into a form that she needs to be in. If you're dating them young enough, it's definitely not too late to formulate some healthy changes in them. In contrast, if you act/behave/make decisions in an AFC way, then you have every reason to expect to be treated harshly in a typical American woman fashion.

For better or for worse, I have a very centric/almost narcissistic mindset where I think of the world as "me", and everything else is something I have considerable power over to manipulate or control. On the surface, that sounds bad, but if you really think about it, if you truly believe you can change and affect most everything - including "American women" - , you might be surprised just how far you can actually take that.

In so many cases, you'll end up being the manipulator, or the manipulated. In a relationship, that power struggle is inevitable - I suspect in most every country. Simply decide that you'll never lose it. If you do or you are losing that struggle in a relationship, send that woman packing, and don't forget to self-analyze and figure out what you did wrong!
 

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Why are American men considered desirable by foreign women?

The perception of Wealth/Power/Status.

Wow, what a revelation!

Another thing. An AFC is a LOT less likely to act like a pu$$y when he is in the presence of a feminine woman.

If an AFC gets a chick who fawns on him like a Hollywood leading man, he assumes more of a natural masculine role. Men don't WANT to be the way they are here in the states these days, it's just that they are afraid of being anything else because they think their supply of pu$$y will dry up if they grow a pair of balls and put these b!tches in their place.

Why do American women have the majority of American men on their knees? Because they are ball busting b!tches. They don't WANT to be fem. Our culture has taught them that they need to be "equal" to men. They don't realize that it is precisely this that makes BOTH sexes unhappy

samspade said:
But I think it had a point. So many American men are beaten down by the obnoxious liberal feminati that the majority of them must seem like puppy dogs to foreign chicks. On the plus side, these women are far more tolerant, and willing to "prop up" even an AFC so that he might remember what it feels like to be a man.
Couple of interesting points.

This "obnoxious liberal feminati" is a strong, powerful force. If most women think this way today, you have the 80/20 hookup culture where a 20% minority of men are banging everything, including the wives and g/f's of the other 80% of men (who feed off the scraps). And make no mistake about it....that's EXACTLY where we are at today.

The pendulum has swung to the far left and the fabric is beginning to come apart at the seams, but it's going to take a considerable amount of time before we get back to something that resembles a "marriage/relationship" friendly society.

And about the women "propping men up".....I think it has a lot to do with the fact that women from these cultures are more tolerant of what in our culture would be considered AFC or beta behavior. In America women throw sh!t tests at us left and right because they are seeking to mate with the few men who are "worthy".

Other places in the world where women aren't trying to fight their feminine side there is a more equitable matching system. Not that they aren't qualifying men, but their tolerance levels are much lower.

"Every strong woman needs a stronger man."

If you have a bunch of masculinized women running around they are naturally going to be looking for even MORE masculine men. And this isn't so much the case in other cultures.
 

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loud. ... Whorish. Easy. ... Lacking in modesty. ... Did you notice the overall theme? A complete and utter lack of shame, modesty and humility.


That sounds like all of my exes. And any girl I would date in the future. I don't want the good girl. They are boring. I want the porn star, the stripper, the sex fiend. Shame and modesty are no fun at all. All of the same guys who want shame and modesty in a woman will want her to act the opposite way for them...but never for anyone else before them...which is unrealistic. Unless you never want anything more than occasional missionary-style in the dark under the covers after you have been a good boy all day...a little whorishness is a good thing.
 

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STR8UP said:
The perception of Wealth/Power/Status.

Another thing. An AFC is a LOT less likely to act like a pu$$y when he is in the presence of a feminine woman.
I agree with both of these. I was curious what would be said in regards to these questions, particulary your thoughts STR8UP.

Wealth/power/status was where I was headed with the stereotype being sought by foreign women - and what do foreign women think of American men. I think the reality (now) is quite different than whatever beliefs they hold.

Funny how when a woman acts like a woman that men suddenly feel bad@$$ and how natural it is for a man to fall in to the role he should be in anyway. Which in turn eases tension and makes everything easier.

This is a very interesting thread. I realize more and more how disgusting it is the way American men have been brainwashed with media bullsh!t. Getting rid of that (for me) isn't easy and doesn't happen overnight.
 

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Just thought of something.

The point that guru brought up and that Aenigma countered about the "first born" thing.

One of my "plates" is actually first born 100% Lebanese. She even speaks Arabic.

On one hand she has a super high ASD, expresses guilt for having sex with me, claims to be able to count the number of sexual partners she had on one hand, etc.

On the other hand, she's not much different that most other American chicks. Actually worse. She's just not feminine enough.

I have a feeling if she was born and raised in the "old country" she would be a completely different chick. Maybe even worth more than a couple of drinks and a fukk whenever she's back in town.....

azanon said:
What RT's post reminded me of is simply the fact that instilling a lot of DJ principles into your relationship will go a long way towards molding a woman into a form that she needs to be in. If you're dating them young enough, it's definitely not too late to formulate some healthy changes in them. In contrast, if you act/behave/make decisions in an AFC way, then you have every reason to expect to be treated harshly in a typical American woman fashion.

For better or for worse, I have a very centric/almost narcissistic mindset where I think of the world as "me", and everything else is something I have considerable power over to manipulate or control. On the surface, that sounds bad, but if you really think about it, if you truly believe you can change and affect most everything - including "American women" - , you might be surprised just how far you can actually take that.

In so many cases, you'll end up being the manipulator, or the manipulated. In a relationship, that power struggle is inevitable - I suspect in most every country. Simply decide that you'll never lose it. If you do or you are losing that struggle in a relationship, send that woman packing, and don't forget to self-analyze and figure out what you did wrong!
I agree with the theme of your post, but the constant manipulation to maintain the upper hand is kind of like polishing a turd- in the end it's still a turd.

Don't get me wrong. I believe 110% that in ANY relationship the man HAS to be the man, and he HAS to lead. That goes for and American woman OR a bush b1tch from Zimbabwe.

And I share a similar narcissistic POV, but I don't have the desire, time, or energy to expend trying to keep that turd a shinin'.

You can definitely maintain the frame in a relationship. My issue is that it isn't 100% ABOUT the frame, it's about the overall demeanor of the woman i choose to spend time with. I want a FEMININE woman. A lady. A chick that I'm proud to introduce to mom. Fewer and few of those exist in America today.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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