"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Demonicale

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Ok so i'm FINALLY getting out their and speaking with women, as in actually grabbing my balls and approaching.

I managed to get 2 numbers the weekend, i thought "great i'm awsome!" lol

Turns out BOTH HAVE KIDS, even my fkbuddie has kids aswell.

My question is that how do you guys deal with this when getting numbers etc?, do you drop them if they have kids or just ignore it or what?...

Bear in mind i want a relationship and not a ****.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Kailex

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Why do you want a relationship?

I don't get it, why do you want to just jump into it right away? Can't you just have a few plates and go out and maybe have a few FB's?

Granted, I wouldn't "date" a single mom, I don't see why you are so quick to discard options and just want to go straight for a relationship. I was doing the same thing and it definitely wasn't paying off.

Don't approach it with a relationship mentality, approach with a mentality to have fun and get to know more people and get your rocks off.
 

theunflushables

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Never get into a relationship with a woman with kids. No matter what she says, you will end up playing daddy to her brats. Then there is all the hassle of her finding a babysitter for when you go out or bringing the kid along and 9 times out of 10 you will end up staying the night at hers which means no peaceful night in.

Don't go any further past the fvckbuddy stage.
 

Demonicale

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theunflushables said:
Never get into a relationship with a woman with kids. No matter what she says, you will end up playing daddy to her brats. Then there is all the hassle of her finding a babysitter for when you go out or bringing the kid along and 9 times out of 10 you will end up staying the night at hers which means no peaceful night in.

Don't go any further past the fvckbuddy stage.

That's how I feel aswell, i do have one fkbud who has kids, but like you i never plan on going anywhere else with her.

Kailex

I want a relationship as i've done all the one night stands and everything, now i would like to try my hand at a proper relationship rather than meaningless thing's.
 

marinetti

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So... you go out over the weekend, get a couple of numbers, they don't work out, so now you're frustrated?

Answers easy, meet more women.

I think a relationship is an admirable goal. But you can't say "I have a problem" after so few closes.

I haven't met any women over the past hour. Does that mean I'm never going to meet any women ever again?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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vatoloco

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Demonicale said:
Bear in mind i want a relationship and not a ****.
If that's your goal, then you have to ask yourself this question: "Am I willing to always come in second with her?"

If you are, then go for it.
 
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