"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Olympic Bar

Being_the_Don

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I've been thinking about something for a while now. Fixed bars ie those where the weights are already fixed on the bar are smaller and weigh less than Olympic barbells. Yeah, that's obvious, right? Well, it wasn't to me for some reason. When I barbell bench press and do my deadlifts I always use the Olympic bar. And since about 1 month ago I've been using the Olympic bar for the standing barbell overhead press, too. Olympic bars weigh about 45 pounds. Now when I think about all of those lifts with the Olympic bar, I was not counting the weight of the bar itself. So looking at the flat bench barbell press, currently I'm lifting at 130 pounds w/o adding the weight of the bar. When I include the bar that weight increases to 175 pounds. My deadlifts therefore are much higher than what I had thought. My 1 RPM is 345 pounds w/o counting the bar. When the bar is added that number goes up to 390 pounds. My average is 320 pounds w/o counting the bar.

My question is: do the rest of you add the weight of the bar when talking about your squats, deadlifts, barbell bench press, etc. ?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Of course. Why wouldn't we? I mean, the bar is also under effect of the gravitational force(s).
 

Cry For Love

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We would never ignore a chance to boost our egos! Be it doing quarter squats with big loads or adding the weight to the bar and ad
 

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To answer your question, yes. A better question is, do you add the 45 to your legpress total, some do others do not. They argue it's because of the 45 degree angle that it shouldn't count, doesn't matter to me since I haven't leg-pressed in over 2 years.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Funny.. I thought the same as you thing until Quagmire pointed this out to me this past Janruary.
 

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Thanks, everyone. I feel like such a newbie now. LOL! As kerpal said I can now add 45 pounds to all those lifts. As for the legpress, I don't do them anymore. I did many months ago but I traded them out for dumbbell squats. I heard or read somewhere that legpresses weren't very effective for training the legs. Is this true?
 

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Being_the_Don said:
Thanks, everyone. I feel like such a newbie now. LOL! As kerpal said I can now add 45 pounds to all those lifts. As for the legpress, I don't do them anymore. I did many months ago but I traded them out for dumbbell squats. I heard or read somewhere that legpresses weren't very effective for training the legs. Is this true?
This is not true. Have you ever seen Ronnie Coleman do a leg workout? Check it out youtube. He uses leg presses for sure. My theory is no exercise is useless. I'm all about muscle confusion. I change my workouts every 2-3 weeks so my muscles never know what to expect and cannot adapt effectively to my routine. One week I'll do squats + romanian DLs. Maybe two weeks, then change to good mornings, farmer's walk, leg presses. You get the idea. Keep changing it up and you'll get huge in no time.
 
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