"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Ole K-mans first real outing in ten years...

K-man

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Guys, I thought I'd tell you about what happened tonight in the hopes that it will inspire someonelse who's recently been through a separation or divorce and who is struggling to get new bearings in life.

You were all very hard on me in my last thread where I wrote about my oneitis for a married lady at work. She's still around of course but I'll try to follow your advice and get some plates to spin.

Last week I finally moved into my new condo. A very nice place and I know I'll enjoy living here.

Now that things have settled I decidet that it was time for my first night out, and I chose a drop-in salsa class!

It was a blast and there were an abundance of smoking hot women there!

My dance partner for the night was Alice, a 40 year old very tall and fit attorney.
I've always enjoyed social dancing. I think the somewhat awkward atmosphere that later usually turns into a lot of relaxed laughter and fun fits my personality quite well. It didn't take long until Alice had told me a great deal about herself and and I made her laugh a lot.
Kino wasn't a part of it since we had a lot of body contact through the dancing.

At the end I asked for her number and she gave it to me without the slightest hesitation.

I'm gonna sleep over it but maybe I'll call her and ask her out for a drink later this week.

I really need to change my mindset because my brain is conditioned in a way that makes it hard for me to "spin plates". I always take dating far to serious and I really don't want to hurt somebodys feelings. Not that women ever cared about mine....

Anyhow. First night out. One number close.

Not to bad eh?

Best of luck to you all!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Die Hard

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Not too bad of a ratio, indeed! Best of luck to you too! :up:
 

yuppaz

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Great job man! You went out and had FUN, that's 99% of it right there! Keep with the fun times!
 

3countriesPlan

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You dug your way out, props for that! Keep it up and enjoy your new life, be picky with the girls and compare your plates to each other so you can get a better feel for who they are!
 

Scaramouche

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Dear KMan,
"I'm gonna sleep over it but maybe I'll call her and ask her out for a drink later this week".No,take her dancing.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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K-man

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Thanks guys!

Had my third salsa class tonight and got a second number. BEFORE the class even started and without asking for it!

This lady's quite hot. I set up a date for some salsa and drinks on the spot so I'll see her saturday!

Seems like I've found a perfect hunting ground for me. Dancing is fun AND there's chicks around everywhere.
 

Tiguere

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The good thing is guys rarely ever go to salsa classes. So the supply of women there beats the demand quite easily
 
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