"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Ole K-mans first real outing in ten years...

K-man

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Guys, I thought I'd tell you about what happened tonight in the hopes that it will inspire someonelse who's recently been through a separation or divorce and who is struggling to get new bearings in life.

You were all very hard on me in my last thread where I wrote about my oneitis for a married lady at work. She's still around of course but I'll try to follow your advice and get some plates to spin.

Last week I finally moved into my new condo. A very nice place and I know I'll enjoy living here.

Now that things have settled I decidet that it was time for my first night out, and I chose a drop-in salsa class!

It was a blast and there were an abundance of smoking hot women there!

My dance partner for the night was Alice, a 40 year old very tall and fit attorney.
I've always enjoyed social dancing. I think the somewhat awkward atmosphere that later usually turns into a lot of relaxed laughter and fun fits my personality quite well. It didn't take long until Alice had told me a great deal about herself and and I made her laugh a lot.
Kino wasn't a part of it since we had a lot of body contact through the dancing.

At the end I asked for her number and she gave it to me without the slightest hesitation.

I'm gonna sleep over it but maybe I'll call her and ask her out for a drink later this week.

I really need to change my mindset because my brain is conditioned in a way that makes it hard for me to "spin plates". I always take dating far to serious and I really don't want to hurt somebodys feelings. Not that women ever cared about mine....

Anyhow. First night out. One number close.

Not to bad eh?

Best of luck to you all!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Die Hard

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Not too bad of a ratio, indeed! Best of luck to you too! :up:
 

yuppaz

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Great job man! You went out and had FUN, that's 99% of it right there! Keep with the fun times!
 

3countriesPlan

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You dug your way out, props for that! Keep it up and enjoy your new life, be picky with the girls and compare your plates to each other so you can get a better feel for who they are!
 

Scaramouche

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Dear KMan,
"I'm gonna sleep over it but maybe I'll call her and ask her out for a drink later this week".No,take her dancing.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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K-man

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Thanks guys!

Had my third salsa class tonight and got a second number. BEFORE the class even started and without asking for it!

This lady's quite hot. I set up a date for some salsa and drinks on the spot so I'll see her saturday!

Seems like I've found a perfect hunting ground for me. Dancing is fun AND there's chicks around everywhere.
 

Tiguere

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The good thing is guys rarely ever go to salsa classes. So the supply of women there beats the demand quite easily
 
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