"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Ole K-mans first real outing in ten years...

K-man

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Guys, I thought I'd tell you about what happened tonight in the hopes that it will inspire someonelse who's recently been through a separation or divorce and who is struggling to get new bearings in life.

You were all very hard on me in my last thread where I wrote about my oneitis for a married lady at work. She's still around of course but I'll try to follow your advice and get some plates to spin.

Last week I finally moved into my new condo. A very nice place and I know I'll enjoy living here.

Now that things have settled I decidet that it was time for my first night out, and I chose a drop-in salsa class!

It was a blast and there were an abundance of smoking hot women there!

My dance partner for the night was Alice, a 40 year old very tall and fit attorney.
I've always enjoyed social dancing. I think the somewhat awkward atmosphere that later usually turns into a lot of relaxed laughter and fun fits my personality quite well. It didn't take long until Alice had told me a great deal about herself and and I made her laugh a lot.
Kino wasn't a part of it since we had a lot of body contact through the dancing.

At the end I asked for her number and she gave it to me without the slightest hesitation.

I'm gonna sleep over it but maybe I'll call her and ask her out for a drink later this week.

I really need to change my mindset because my brain is conditioned in a way that makes it hard for me to "spin plates". I always take dating far to serious and I really don't want to hurt somebodys feelings. Not that women ever cared about mine....

Anyhow. First night out. One number close.

Not to bad eh?

Best of luck to you all!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Die Hard

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Not too bad of a ratio, indeed! Best of luck to you too! :up:
 

yuppaz

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Great job man! You went out and had FUN, that's 99% of it right there! Keep with the fun times!
 

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You dug your way out, props for that! Keep it up and enjoy your new life, be picky with the girls and compare your plates to each other so you can get a better feel for who they are!
 

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Dear KMan,
"I'm gonna sleep over it but maybe I'll call her and ask her out for a drink later this week".No,take her dancing.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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K-man

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Thanks guys!

Had my third salsa class tonight and got a second number. BEFORE the class even started and without asking for it!

This lady's quite hot. I set up a date for some salsa and drinks on the spot so I'll see her saturday!

Seems like I've found a perfect hunting ground for me. Dancing is fun AND there's chicks around everywhere.
 

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The good thing is guys rarely ever go to salsa classes. So the supply of women there beats the demand quite easily
 
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