"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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bcude said:
Being jaded by life, not able to pairbond due to sheer number of sexual partners, declining looks, lack of youth and fertility and universal baggage are reasons i've heard before, but never the difference in EQ. Please do elaborate.
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Here are some of my previous postings abt EQ.

Alternatively, you can use the search function to peruse it further, I believe I've written abt it on many occasions.

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Big age difference couples

I've talked about this before, a couple in the neighbourhood I live have 14 year age difference between each other and two kids that are not even 16 yet and he's pushing 60 years old. What made me make this thread she had a friend of hers visit never seen this woman before she's got to be...
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Green_Manalishi said:
Back in 1980 Steely Dan addressed this very dilemma of dating with an age gap :

When speaking to women a 10+ years younger than myself, it's clear we are in 2 different worlds insofar as cultural touchstones are concerned. Talking to a 20something year old, even casually as acquaintances, is like talking to a foreigner once we start to dig deeper. Most have no clue about the world I live in, and vice versa.
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Who gives a crap about cultural touchstones?

Why would some 32 year old guy in 1980 give a crap about some 19 year old not knowing that Aretha Franklin was popular when she was 4?

Why would a 35-40 year old in 2023 care about some 18-24 year old not being around in Summer 2004 when Usher's "Yeah" was playing everywhere?

Her physical attractiveness and personality traits matter more than arbitrary cultural touchstones.
 
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SW15 said:
Who gives a crap about cultural touchstones?

Why would some 32 year old guy in 1980 give a crap about some 19 year old not knowing that Aretha Franklin was popular when she was 4?

Why would a 35-40 year old in 2023 care about some 18-24 year old not being around in Summer 2004 when Usher's "Yeah" was playing everywhere?

Her physical attractiveness and personality traits matter more than arbitrary cultural touchstones.
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Agree, also new shared experience can be built together in the presente and kept for the future.
 
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