Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Older Woman Who Dress Sexy.. Red Flag?

soulforge

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Guys if a woman has tunrned 50, is it considered normal for her to dress sexy?

I ask this question because, even though my ex did not wear tiny short skirts etc

She always had the need to wear sexy high heels?

No matter what the weather etc, she always wanted to dress younger than her years..

Also she always wore clothes that revealed some skin, for example ripped/torn jeans.. Or blouses that showed her back, or shoulders or her bra straps!

She had this tarty kind of look about her.. Are these woman looking for attention from males when they dress this way? Or is it just common and normal for older woman to show skin this days.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Guys if a woman has tunrned 50, is it considered normal for her to dress sexy?

I ask this question because, even though my ex did not wear tiny short skirts etc

She always had the need to wear sexy high heels?

No matter what the weather etc, she always wanted to dress younger than her years..

Also she always wore clothes that revealed some skin, for example ripped/torn jeans.. Or blouses that showed her back, or shoulders or her bra straps!

She had this tarty kind of look about her.. Are these woman looking for attention from males when they dress this way? Or is it just common and normal for older woman to show skin this days.
If she got it why not?
 

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-As far as dress code is concerned, the wearer either pulls the outfit off, or they don't. That's not specific to gender nor age group.

-Ask yourself the question from the opposite angle: when you are 60 or 65 years old yourself, how do you want your 45-55 year old girlfriend to turn up; having made an effort, or dressed in a sack?
 

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OP come on.................ffs you been on the gin, why you no invite us
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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There are ways for older women to dress sexy while still being age-appropriate.

I find that when older women dress too young for their years, it turns me right off.
 

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There are ways for older women to dress sexy while still being age-appropriate.

I find that when older women dress too young for their years, it turns me right off.

Well this was my key point... If a female wants to look good once she hits past 40 or 50 fair enough..

But when she is trying to dress like a young girl? For me again, it doesn't really sit well..

Maybe she is trying to attain the same type of male attention, that she once got, before her vag dried up!
 

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Sexy is as much about attitude as it is about looks. It's more about vibe than anything else. Sexy and beautiful can exist separately from one another. Is it best to be both? Sure. But older women are more experienced women (in sex, in life, etc.) so if they have confidence in who they are they are going to have a certain moxie in their presentation, and this is part of how they are perceived in the world.

A woman who is truly sexy does not need to look trashy/inappropriate...and knows where the line is between the two.

It's nuanced, like so many other things. Some older women can get away with more than others. As far as looking age appropriate, I agree with looking age appropriate, but age appropriate is going to differ based on what an individual woman has to work with physically. Jennifer Lopez or Kelly Ripa or Nicole Kidman can get away with much different wardrobe choices than your average 50 year old for example.

An older woman who is still thin with a great figure is going to look sexy in plenty of different things because she has an appealing physique. If she also has a pretty face and great hair? If she also has a sexy vibe and engaging attitude? She will have more attention than she can entertain.
 
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