Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Older Proffessional Woman

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Hey Gentelmen, i havent posted in this section before , but since im older now i guess im part of this club now , lol . now my problem .

ive always been attracted to older women , and ive always was looking for a woamn with a certain type of qualifications , and began to think that she didnt exist , until now . . . I met a professional woman , shes a asst principal at a elementary school , she has 2 degrees and shes about 32 -35y.o. ( im a 28 y.o professional artist, writer & publishing business owner.by the way . ) i had crushed on her for a while before i even talked 2 her . and when i did i came across smooth and on her level . . . i asked her out to enjoy an evening with friends , she accepted with a smile . im going to run into her again and im at a loss as to how to follow up , or move things forward . im looking for a solution or a strategy on how to turn this into a LTR. any advise from you guys ? any advise will be appreciated - Ashman1 :D
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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put your age in your profile or your post are going to be deleted.
 

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From the tone and content of your post I predict that you will start writing her some smitten, romantic love notes after your first date.
I further predict that she will send it back to you covered in red ink and then send you to a remedial English teacher to fix your sentence construction and your spelling.

Good luck with her anyway. Let's hope that she gives you a detention in the nicest possible way.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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hey at least in your scenario , i get to the first date ! thanx bro . lol :)
 

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You should put too much hopes on this woman. Try it with her, but try to find other women too. And most importantly, you should not think about a LTR with a woman like that.
 

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There was a whole thread on what professions you shouldn't date-teachers are on the warning list. Do a search. You sound like you are in love and you don't even know her????
 

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no , not in love . just taking it as it comes . and with the type of life i live , she fits the type of person that would compliment what im looking for in a mate .
 

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sodbuster said:
There was a whole thread on what professions you shouldn't date-teachers are on the warning list. Do a search. You sound like you are in love and you don't even know her????
what this guy said. Man sounds like you puttin the pvssy on a pedastol already. Mistake I noticed right off the bat was askin her out via the
"group friends" scenerio. Betaish IMO. Well we will see if your methods work.
good luck and keep us updated.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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ashman1 said:
Hey Gentelmen, i havent posted in this section before , but since im older now i guess im part of this club now , lol . now my problem .

ive always been attracted to older women , and ive always was looking for a woamn with a certain type of qualifications , and began to think that she didnt exist , until now . . . I met a professional woman , shes a asst principal at a elementary school , she has 2 degrees and shes about 32 -35y.o. ( im a 28 y.o professional artist, writer & publishing business owner.by the way . ) i had crushed on her for a while before i even talked 2 her . and when i did i came across smooth and on her level . . . i asked her out to enjoy an evening with friends , she accepted with a smile . im going to run into her again and im at a loss as to how to follow up , or move things forward . im looking for a solution or a strategy on how to turn this into a LTR. any advise from you guys ? any advise will be appreciated - Ashman1 :D
1) She is 32-35 years old

If she turns out to be worthwhile sticking around with for the long term, how old is she going to be when she has kids? And what about her grandkids? She knows this too, so the pressure is on her

2) She has two degrees and is a professional women

So she has an education and she feeds herself? How admirable.

The strategy here is to not put this granny on a pedestal.
Her options are limited, time is running out for her and her work environment is not going to cough up much competition for you. You have NOTHING to feel apprehensive about. She is probably ten times as nervous as you are.

3) You are looking for a LTR before you have even fvcked her?

Dude, seriously. You dont know her from a bar of soap. She could have ****ed the whole football team in college just for kicks. She could be a former stripper. Dont worry about a LTR with anyone until you know them a little better. Let things develop slowly.

Or you could just try and bang the broad, keep her on the loop while you chase younger, better looking women. Sorry to say, but most men who prefer older women also normally tend to prefer single mothers. Easy meat and a lower chance of rejection
 

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I've dated a dozen teachers in the last year. They're all nuts, don't take them seriously. The over 30 single ones are super desperate. She should be the one sh!tting her panties, not you.
 

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For the record:

Elementary School Principal ≠ Professional Woman


Out of curiosity, have you ever dated a woman like the one you're describing here before? If so, how did it turn out? If not, how many LTRs have you had in the past and what were those girls like?
 

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What do you mean, "How to follow up"?

You set the date, she accepted. Follow up by 1) going on the date, 2) having a good time, and 3) being charming.

If you see her again before that, do #2 and #3, but eject before you burn her out on you, because she needs something to look forward to for #1.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Rollo Tomassi said:
For the record:

Elementary School Principal ≠ Professional Woman

Out of curiosity, have you ever dated a woman like the one you're describing here before? If so, how did it turn out? If not, how many LTRs have you had in the past and what were those girls like?
No, in answer 2 your question , I have not . i have dated older women in the past just not with such a professional career, all of them were signifigantly older than her , and they all went well. older women play less games than young girls , and im looking for something serious , no more BS .
 

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squirrels said:
What do you mean, "How to follow up"?

You set the date, she accepted. Follow up by 1) going on the date, 2) having a good time, and 3) being charming.

If you see her again before that, do #2 and #3, but eject before you burn her out on you, because she needs something to look forward to for #1.

what i mean by " follow up " i wasnt sure if planning something right away would be , " moving too fast " or should i chat her up a lil bit b4 i plan an outing . is what im asking .
 
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