"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Older Proffessional Woman

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Hey Gentelmen, i havent posted in this section before , but since im older now i guess im part of this club now , lol . now my problem .

ive always been attracted to older women , and ive always was looking for a woamn with a certain type of qualifications , and began to think that she didnt exist , until now . . . I met a professional woman , shes a asst principal at a elementary school , she has 2 degrees and shes about 32 -35y.o. ( im a 28 y.o professional artist, writer & publishing business owner.by the way . ) i had crushed on her for a while before i even talked 2 her . and when i did i came across smooth and on her level . . . i asked her out to enjoy an evening with friends , she accepted with a smile . im going to run into her again and im at a loss as to how to follow up , or move things forward . im looking for a solution or a strategy on how to turn this into a LTR. any advise from you guys ? any advise will be appreciated - Ashman1 :D
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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put your age in your profile or your post are going to be deleted.
 

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From the tone and content of your post I predict that you will start writing her some smitten, romantic love notes after your first date.
I further predict that she will send it back to you covered in red ink and then send you to a remedial English teacher to fix your sentence construction and your spelling.

Good luck with her anyway. Let's hope that she gives you a detention in the nicest possible way.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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hey at least in your scenario , i get to the first date ! thanx bro . lol :)
 

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You should put too much hopes on this woman. Try it with her, but try to find other women too. And most importantly, you should not think about a LTR with a woman like that.
 

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There was a whole thread on what professions you shouldn't date-teachers are on the warning list. Do a search. You sound like you are in love and you don't even know her????
 

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no , not in love . just taking it as it comes . and with the type of life i live , she fits the type of person that would compliment what im looking for in a mate .
 

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sodbuster said:
There was a whole thread on what professions you shouldn't date-teachers are on the warning list. Do a search. You sound like you are in love and you don't even know her????
what this guy said. Man sounds like you puttin the pvssy on a pedastol already. Mistake I noticed right off the bat was askin her out via the
"group friends" scenerio. Betaish IMO. Well we will see if your methods work.
good luck and keep us updated.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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ashman1 said:
Hey Gentelmen, i havent posted in this section before , but since im older now i guess im part of this club now , lol . now my problem .

ive always been attracted to older women , and ive always was looking for a woamn with a certain type of qualifications , and began to think that she didnt exist , until now . . . I met a professional woman , shes a asst principal at a elementary school , she has 2 degrees and shes about 32 -35y.o. ( im a 28 y.o professional artist, writer & publishing business owner.by the way . ) i had crushed on her for a while before i even talked 2 her . and when i did i came across smooth and on her level . . . i asked her out to enjoy an evening with friends , she accepted with a smile . im going to run into her again and im at a loss as to how to follow up , or move things forward . im looking for a solution or a strategy on how to turn this into a LTR. any advise from you guys ? any advise will be appreciated - Ashman1 :D
1) She is 32-35 years old

If she turns out to be worthwhile sticking around with for the long term, how old is she going to be when she has kids? And what about her grandkids? She knows this too, so the pressure is on her

2) She has two degrees and is a professional women

So she has an education and she feeds herself? How admirable.

The strategy here is to not put this granny on a pedestal.
Her options are limited, time is running out for her and her work environment is not going to cough up much competition for you. You have NOTHING to feel apprehensive about. She is probably ten times as nervous as you are.

3) You are looking for a LTR before you have even fvcked her?

Dude, seriously. You dont know her from a bar of soap. She could have ****ed the whole football team in college just for kicks. She could be a former stripper. Dont worry about a LTR with anyone until you know them a little better. Let things develop slowly.

Or you could just try and bang the broad, keep her on the loop while you chase younger, better looking women. Sorry to say, but most men who prefer older women also normally tend to prefer single mothers. Easy meat and a lower chance of rejection
 

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I've dated a dozen teachers in the last year. They're all nuts, don't take them seriously. The over 30 single ones are super desperate. She should be the one sh!tting her panties, not you.
 

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For the record:

Elementary School Principal ≠ Professional Woman


Out of curiosity, have you ever dated a woman like the one you're describing here before? If so, how did it turn out? If not, how many LTRs have you had in the past and what were those girls like?
 

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What do you mean, "How to follow up"?

You set the date, she accepted. Follow up by 1) going on the date, 2) having a good time, and 3) being charming.

If you see her again before that, do #2 and #3, but eject before you burn her out on you, because she needs something to look forward to for #1.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Rollo Tomassi said:
For the record:

Elementary School Principal ≠ Professional Woman

Out of curiosity, have you ever dated a woman like the one you're describing here before? If so, how did it turn out? If not, how many LTRs have you had in the past and what were those girls like?
No, in answer 2 your question , I have not . i have dated older women in the past just not with such a professional career, all of them were signifigantly older than her , and they all went well. older women play less games than young girls , and im looking for something serious , no more BS .
 

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squirrels said:
What do you mean, "How to follow up"?

You set the date, she accepted. Follow up by 1) going on the date, 2) having a good time, and 3) being charming.

If you see her again before that, do #2 and #3, but eject before you burn her out on you, because she needs something to look forward to for #1.

what i mean by " follow up " i wasnt sure if planning something right away would be , " moving too fast " or should i chat her up a lil bit b4 i plan an outing . is what im asking .
 
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