You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
She assumes that a older guy would have gained more experience from having more encounters and gaining more "abilities." You'd realize this if you were older.Crow said:This chick, six years my senior likes to tell me how she is attracted to older men and that they are better in bed.
First, why do women think this is true?
Beg her to give you a chance without sounding too whiny.Crow said:Second, how should I break it to her gently that she needs to give it up?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
LOL. Tell her if you don't use your equipment ASAP, you might forget how.Crow said:Second, how should I break it to her gently that she needs to give it up?
Hmm.. well i have nevr quite met a mature man with AFC tendencies... it is assumed they is better in bed cause they got more experience.. haha.. lol.. ya sure. pop a viagra pill or two to get going.. but anyway. older men probably means 6-10years. except in special cases like Hugh Hefner.Crow said:This chick, six years my senior likes to tell me how she is attracted to older men and that they are better in bed.
First, why do women think this is true?
Second, how should I break it to her gently that she needs to give it up?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
STR8UP said:Why am I better in bed now than when I was 21?
Experience and knowledge of how to pleasure a woman. I pay attention. I watch for subtle and not so subtle signs that she is enjoying what I am doing.
I couldn't tell you why women think that, but I can tell you that I, a 26-year-old male, enjoy sex much more with older women. Of course, women are known to reach their sexual peak between 35 and 40, while men supposedly begin to lose their vitality in their mid-to-late twenties.Crow said:This chick, six years my senior likes to tell me how she is attracted to older men and that they are better in bed.
First, why do women think this is true?
Second, how should I break it to her gently that she needs to give it up?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.