"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Older guys: Would you get involved with a widow?

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Don Juanabbe

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Just wondering what your thoughts are on this, as I've recently met one, great gal, but you wonder whether she's really moved on with her life or not.

That plus you're almost competing with somone who can't really be competed with - I.e., generally when someone has passed on, people tend to remember all the good stuff rather than any bad stuff, so in essence, you are competing with a person of perfection.

Any thoughts?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Doesn't it work the same with girls who have been dumped or divorced?

It's all in relation to the person.

It's unfair for her to compare someone to her dead husband... and she probably will not as time goes by.

Rule of thumb. It take's half the time you were with someone, to get over them in this situation.
 
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Check out the thread I posted a few weeks ago entitled "Her fiance died....."


There is probably some relevant advice in there.


Bottom line is, don't dismiss someone until you've spent time trying.
 
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