"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Older guys: Would you get involved with a widow?

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Don Juanabbe

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Just wondering what your thoughts are on this, as I've recently met one, great gal, but you wonder whether she's really moved on with her life or not.

That plus you're almost competing with somone who can't really be competed with - I.e., generally when someone has passed on, people tend to remember all the good stuff rather than any bad stuff, so in essence, you are competing with a person of perfection.

Any thoughts?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Doesn't it work the same with girls who have been dumped or divorced?

It's all in relation to the person.

It's unfair for her to compare someone to her dead husband... and she probably will not as time goes by.

Rule of thumb. It take's half the time you were with someone, to get over them in this situation.
 
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Check out the thread I posted a few weeks ago entitled "Her fiance died....."


There is probably some relevant advice in there.


Bottom line is, don't dismiss someone until you've spent time trying.
 
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