"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Older guys advice.

Tom00

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Yeah, so here's the situation.

I have no mates. I have no women. I've never had any women, and I've never done anything with a woman. I've been hooked on the same woman for a year, with no results.
I know a few of women, but i keep getting LJBF, told I'm "lovely" , how I'd make a brilliant boyfriend, but they "just don't like me like that".
Don't get me wrong, I'm physically attractive, I'm cut, I hit the gym 3 times a week. I play on the rugby team, but I can't create that "spark" of attraction.
I'm pretty down about it. It's hard enough not having any mates, let alone no women.
What can I do? I've read the bible cover to cover. I've been here since I was 14 and nothing, I've improved myself beyond regocnition, but nothing.

Cheers,
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Tom00

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I'm 17. I've had enough. I work my arse off with women and all I ever get is to be a friend.
 

GuitarPlayer

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I've been there, my friend. When I was in the USAF, I hung around with a female "friend" that every guy on base wanted to bang. She would tell me things like "you're a diamond in the rough" and "any girl would be lucky to have you" and other forms of BS. Then one day she came to me all upset and announced that she had been to see the 1st Sergeant privately about something and "offered him her body." (He declined)

That was 20 years ago and it still took me until this year to really get a clue.
 

WesCottII

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You know what man. You described my life a couple of years back.

You arn't happy with yourself, If you arn't happy with yourself, how can expect to attract women? Obviously you are a virgin, and I think you place to much worth on losing your virginity.
Stop for a moment. Just enjoy the ride, not the destination, focus on your own goals, getting cut.....doing well in the team etc. As Pook puts it "women are there to make life better, not to be life" or something to that effect.

And furthermore, the girls at school arn't the only girls in the world, get out to some clubs or something. GET OUT THERE MAN!!! good luck, let me now how it goes. Anyone else got any advice for the kid?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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The Nice Guy is Gone

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Originally posted by Tom00
Yeah, so here's the situation.

I have no mates. I have no women. I've never had any women, and I've never done anything with a woman. I've been hooked on the same woman for a year, with no results.
I know a few of women, but i keep getting LJBF, told I'm "lovely" , how I'd make a brilliant boyfriend, but they "just don't like me like that".
Don't get me wrong, I'm physically attractive, I'm cut, I hit the gym 3 times a week. I play on the rugby team, but I can't create that "spark" of attraction.
I'm pretty down about it. It's hard enough not having any mates, let alone no women.
What can I do? I've read the bible cover to cover. I've been here since I was 14 and nothing, I've improved myself beyond regocnition, but nothing.

Cheers,
What you can do is join us here:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=86985

We're halfway through the first week, but I'm sure you can join in. We're all pulling for each other, so don't give up.
 
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