Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: The evolution of the best time to call
Originally posted by Mr. Mystery II
I'm not so fast to trust as I am to just not give a shyt. They have the same effect, but ambivalence is safer.
If it's just a casual thing, then it's pretty easy to not give a sh*t at all. But if it's any kind of a committed relationship, you've got to have some level of trust. And that's something that gets built up over time. I find that when a girl says something and then it gets confirmed somehow that she is telling the truth, that builds the trust up, and vice versa.
It's not that you can just automatically trust someone 100% when you first get into a relationship with them, but over time you begin to get a feel for their character and whether they are trustworthy or not.
You can also look at whether or not she lies to other people, and if she does, how good she is at it. That's one of the many reasons I think it's a bad idea to get involved with a girl with a boyfriend... if she pulls off lying to him and cheating on him and she's so good at the lying that he doesn't even realize she's doing it... then she'll probably be that good of a liar with you, too.
Anyway, though, there are some things inside a girl's control and some things that aren't. If you're lying there with a girl and she picks up the phone at midnight and calls a guy she went out with several months ago -- that's a big problem, no matter what the hell she talks to him about. But she can't help it if the dude calls her -- that's not in her control. Now, if it happens all the time, you've gotta start wondering what the deal is, but Lord knows that I'm fully aware of how guys can be. Just look around this site. I bet there are guys who have/would call a girl up at midnight even if they hadn't called for months, completely oblivious to the probability that their call will not be welcome even if it's 7pm and certainly not at midnight.
But I trust penkitten... I think she's shown herself to have a lot of trustworthiness and integrity.
