"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Drum&Bass

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I'm becoming more and more fascinated with strength and power training out side of a gym.

I'm using heavy stones, bricks, heavy ass pieces of metal, furniture anything thats hard to hold comfortably and HEAVY, unstable terrain (grassy hills), people, animals, ANYTHING. I find it much more brutal than training in a gym and I'm using WAY MORE muscles than any barbell or dumbbell could ever hit.

Its an insane amount of fun coming up with exercises and its extremely satisfying to train during the most beautiful times of the day.

I got this one exercise where I hold up an old table over head and race my neighbors dog up a hill..its KILLER..and I'll flip and catch bricks to develop grip strength, or power clean stones in my yard. i'm tellin you its crazy !

gyms are cool, but Out Door/Backyard training is where its at !!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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AlexTheGreat

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I'm with you on this one, inventing your own exercises is one of the most satisfying feelings you can get :D
 

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wowww

If i ever did that, people would look at me like I'm crazy! If it works, it can't be bad, just don't go too heavy with it, dangerous =-o Does it work with your balance as well?
 

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Does it work with your balance as well?
HELL YEA !!! because of the unevenness of the ground and the awkward shapes of the weight, BALANCE is one of the main skills that comes into play.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Drum&Bass said:
I'm becoming more and more fascinated with strength and power training out side of a gym.

I'm using heavy stones, bricks, heavy ass pieces of metal, furniture anything thats hard to hold comfortably and HEAVY, unstable terrain (grassy hills), people, animals, ANYTHING. I find it much more brutal than training in a gym and I'm using WAY MORE muscles than any barbell or dumbbell could ever hit.

Its an insane amount of fun coming up with exercises and its extremely satisfying to train during the most beautiful times of the day.

I got this one exercise where I hold up an old table over head and race my neighbors dog up a hill..its KILLER..and I'll flip and catch bricks to develop grip strength, or power clean stones in my yard. i'm tellin you its crazy !

gyms are cool, but Out Door/Backyard training is where its at !!
I started with bodyweight exercises, went to bodybuilding, tried powerlifting, now more a mix of strength training & olympic lifting. I've been interested in going strongman for some time now. Lifting barbells is great for strength, but it's less funcitonal than uneven objects.

Problem with strongman is that you need a serious base of strength.
 

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Yes!!! When I was stuck in Africa whout a gym we used to lift whateve boulders we could find. I always think about going back to that style.

Sometimes I do pallet runs. I'll do 5 miles with the heavest wood pallet I can find. It's big, awkward , and if you carry it wrong you get full of slivers. I haven't done that for a while....

And then another favorite is rock runs. Grab a couple of rocks that you can just barely grip with one hand. Then as you run do different exercises. Arms out to the side, presses, arm circles, etc.
I learned this when I was going through an intense climbing school. It's one of the fastest things to buil grip strength.
 

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Tyres are fun as hell.
Tyre flips, tyre drags a la sled drags, sledgehammer whacks.
 

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Checkout gpp or general physical preparedness; tire flipping, sled running, sledgehammer work, etc..
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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