Good_ol_boy
Senior Don Juan
She's done something you haven't...She's moved on!
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Hmm...
Five years is a long time my friend! She has moved on.
In other words she doesn't give a rat's asss about you, you had your chance and you blew it, but stop beating yourself up over it thats partof life you live and you learn.
Edited out: after reading your second post!
Sayno'
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Do you think that you would be happy if she gave you another chance?
Something tells me that you wouldn't. I think your dealing with major deppresion and no woman is going to solve that!
Five years is a long time my friend! She has moved on.
In other words she doesn't give a rat's asss about you, you had your chance and you blew it, but stop beating yourself up over it thats partof life you live and you learn.
Edited out: after reading your second post!
Sayno'
P.S.
Do you think that you would be happy if she gave you another chance?
Something tells me that you wouldn't. I think your dealing with major deppresion and no woman is going to solve that!
Those two sentences pinpoint the crux of your problem.
You are bored and lonely.
I suspect that you may not have alot of women to interact with at this time in your life. So like a lonely child who creates imaginary friends, you're creating imaginary relationships with women from your past.
If you're anything like I once was, you don't have much confidence in your ability to attract other women. This must change in order for you to successfully get over this girl.
Possible solutions:
- bulk up
- cut up
- boot camp for the mature man (cold approaches, etc.)
- make NEW friends, male and female
- expand social network
- attend parties, mingle, socialize
- internet dating (only as a small supplement to real life dating)
The main thing is to improve your physical appearance, then place yourself in as many social surroundings as possible. Not necessarily to play the numbers game, but rather to develop a personality and character that women will find universally attractive.
Basically, stop playing email games with yourself and live for today.
Hope that helps.
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NewMan
Master Don Juan
I was in a simular situation to some extent.
2.5 yrs on - I still think about her on occasion - but I've grown to see that I'm actually happier now that I was then. I've grown to understand that I create my own reality - and it's your world you live in not hers.
I'm in a different place than I was 2 yrs ago - and I'm got going back to it for anyone. Period.
Now, the funny part of it, is that she still calls me reguarly - and even suggests we meet (she now live out of town - and suggested I go meet he when she was away on work (away from her husband)).
Of course I have not gone to meet her - and have no intention of it. I have seen her when she comes back into town - but she must make the effort and see me when and where I want. I control what does or doesn't happen.
Anyways, your problems are:
1) you didn't have the balls to ask her to coffee when you talked to her.
2) you emailed her asking her to go and meet you.
3) you put way to much effort and time into this girl.
4) your living in the past.
5) your with a chick that doesn't do it for you.
6) you believe that somehow this girl will make your life perfect. Sorry it's not going to happen.
You've got to come back to reality bud and focus on the present.
2.5 yrs on - I still think about her on occasion - but I've grown to see that I'm actually happier now that I was then. I've grown to understand that I create my own reality - and it's your world you live in not hers.
I'm in a different place than I was 2 yrs ago - and I'm got going back to it for anyone. Period.
Now, the funny part of it, is that she still calls me reguarly - and even suggests we meet (she now live out of town - and suggested I go meet he when she was away on work (away from her husband)).
Of course I have not gone to meet her - and have no intention of it. I have seen her when she comes back into town - but she must make the effort and see me when and where I want. I control what does or doesn't happen.
Anyways, your problems are:
1) you didn't have the balls to ask her to coffee when you talked to her.
2) you emailed her asking her to go and meet you.
3) you put way to much effort and time into this girl.
4) your living in the past.
5) your with a chick that doesn't do it for you.
6) you believe that somehow this girl will make your life perfect. Sorry it's not going to happen.
You've got to come back to reality bud and focus on the present.
Heretolearn
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GREAT POSTS newman and survivor!!!!!!!!!!
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
WestCoaster
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She's f--king MARRIED, whether YOU think she's happy or not, she's f-n married and married women don't often return e-mails to ex-boyfriends and most don't want to go to coffee. There are exceptions, this isn't one of them.
Two years of depression over a woman? Ugh! God, after 6 months don't you think it's freaking time to move on with your life? And there is ZERO scientific evidence that the rule that it takes you twice as long to get over a relationship from the time you were in it. That's as big a myth as the two months salary B.S. for a wedding ring.
Please, shake yourself. Don't take any AFC advice here, go out and date anything with a pulse and try to get to double figures in dates within a month.
Pining over an ex-gf from five years ago who is MARRIED is sadly one of the most wimpy things I've ever heard about in my life.
What ever happened to the testosterone on this board?
Two years of depression over a woman? Ugh! God, after 6 months don't you think it's freaking time to move on with your life? And there is ZERO scientific evidence that the rule that it takes you twice as long to get over a relationship from the time you were in it. That's as big a myth as the two months salary B.S. for a wedding ring.
Please, shake yourself. Don't take any AFC advice here, go out and date anything with a pulse and try to get to double figures in dates within a month.
Pining over an ex-gf from five years ago who is MARRIED is sadly one of the most wimpy things I've ever heard about in my life.
What ever happened to the testosterone on this board?
Remember this sentence, don't ever do this again, if you still have feelings for her (because you obviously do).
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Why do you need to mail?
Why do you keep mailing if she doesn't answer the first time?
Why are you asking questions?
Why do you even care?
3 billion women available, why are you still stubborn on this one after so many years?
Do you see what I mean??
Haven't you dated other women in the meanwhile? Why haven't you forgotten about her?
stop asking questions & leave her alone.
peace.
AbsoluteFreakinChump
Master Don Juan
Dude!
Dude! Your current gf is pregnant w/Your baby and you're still trying to get-back with your MARRIED ex?
You gotta get your head examined!
Dude! Your current gf is pregnant w/Your baby and you're still trying to get-back with your MARRIED ex?
You gotta get your head examined!
WestCoaster
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Thugo, sorry, but you're a disgrace to manhood. Your gf is pregnant and you're hoping to get back together with a gal from your past who is married.
You're one f-cked up dude. Get some psychotherapy, ASAP. You're not being a man, you're being an irresponsible clown who is giving men a bad name.
The last thing we need in this country is more unwanted pregnancies, irresponsible men, and men who won't raise their kids properly.
Sheesh, wake up.
You're one f-cked up dude. Get some psychotherapy, ASAP. You're not being a man, you're being an irresponsible clown who is giving men a bad name.
The last thing we need in this country is more unwanted pregnancies, irresponsible men, and men who won't raise their kids properly.
Sheesh, wake up.
speedo_meme
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West, don't waste your posts for this chump. I've b1tch-slapped his ass so many times it isn't funny. He's just a dumbass through and through, no intellect, just a worthless fukk...
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
either she did or her best friend or momma or her new lover did.
imagine all your stuff in the dump with a ton of spegetti leftovers and a couch and god knows whatelse on top.
now, move forward.
TooColdUlrick
Master Don Juan
it's always interesting to see just how pathetic some dudes are. good luck with all that, Thugo.