"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Chick I took to prom oh so many years ago is now trying to get at me. I used to be totally enamored with this chick. I ended up having a total makeout fight with her tonight, although I used to be totally friendzoned. I am confused as ****, guess it was rad though.I hoesrly have no clue wtf happened or changed..still questioning motives...
 
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Barring getting knocked up and looking for a chump to take care of the bastard, she's probably looking at the wall in the near distance and seeing who she can ensnare into relationships/marriage.

Either that or she just needed some validation and got to your name on the list.
 

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Pretty much, I decided to take another crack today, she sucks. She was all like I know you like me and I said sure cause hey why not take a shot see if it was all I cracked it up to be in my head. Lame, she is boring and her kisses are weak. When she was all like what do you expect I just told her to do what she wants to do I don't care. That threw her off quite a bit, took a bit of coaxing to even get her next to me. I had the tension pretty high.

She talked on the phone too ****ing much.
She talked about marriage and kids.
And she talked talked talked talked.

I am going to ljbf her, should be fun.
 

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Don't take her seriously. The most likely scenario in these situations is she recently got out of a relationship and she currently has no other options. She sees you as a sure thing. Many times they only want validation or will use you as a rebound relationship before she branch swings to another guy. You could use her for a FWB, but I wouldn't take it beyond that.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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She talked on the phone too ****ing much.
She talked about marriage and kids.
And she talked talked talked talked.
To wax positive - if your oneitis had worked out the way you wanted at the time, that could've been your life man. EVERY DAY. We would all do well to remember that.
 
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