"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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old friend?

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recently the girl who I've been crazy about for a long time had came back into my life..we lost contact for about 5-6 years but recently we found each other and caught up a few times..she even came to the prom with me when my gf could'nt come (that was like my dream came true)
I'm a changed person to what I was 5-6 years ago and I showed her that..I played cool, I was comfortable with her and I teased her etc. she totally digged it!! we had a wonderful night. and she is like the HOTTEST person ive met!! she is also very nice. at prom every single guy wanted her..and of course I want her.
She recently broke up with her boyfriend..and I really want to get her! if I'm ever goin to get here it is now!
but where should I start? there is a JT concert next week that she couldn't get tickets to..I've got 2 tickets but I'm supposed to be taking my girlfriend. the gf isn't that much of a JT fan but she is..so im thinking maybe I should invite her instead?
should I or should I not? would it be too soon? HELP ME GUYS!

S.D.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Don't be her emotional tampon. It sounds like you were definitely in the friends zone in the past, and though some time has gone by there's a good chance you're still there in her mind.
And once you enter that zone you pretty much never leave.
The worst thing you could do right now is talk with her about her last relationship, or spend a lot of time talking to her on the phone.
If I were you I'd make it obvious that I was not wanting to be friends. I'd either see her romantically or not see her at all, otherwise you'll just torture yourself and get strung along.
 

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Jaxon said:
If I were you I'd make it obvious that I was not wanting to be friends. I'd either see her romantically or not see her at all, otherwise you'll just torture yourself and get strung along.
how do i do that?? any examples?
 

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and dont worry mate i dont talk to her about her ex.. hahaha i couldn't give a **** about it..so no emotional tampon for me:D
 
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