I do wonder if approaching dating from this victim mentality is really what is causing their failures.
It can certainly put up some unnecessary hurdles to overcome.
There is a difference between screening women out and eliminating yourself, but sometimes that line can be blurred for a lot of guys.
When I read the ad the op quoted, I did not think it was a manifesto of snobbery or high maintenance, mainly because I believe I am already a man who possesses the qualities she supposedly “demands”. I would see a person seeking those standards for themselves as somewhat normal.
Of course, it’s not customary to write an ad like that, but after so many failed and miserable experiences with OLD, I could certainly see why a woman would at some point.
I would bet my balls this very same woman began OLD with a sweeter profile the op would have chomped on hook, line and sinker. But eventually she decided that wasn’t working out as hoped for.
As I said, I have met these women and they didn’t seem any more or less high maintenance to me than any other woman.
But a man who looks at such an ad and immediately recoils, he may be doing so because he sees the list of demands as an exhausting and impossible embodiment compared to who he really is.
Ask any man here what his standards are in a woman, and make his response the content of an ad, and he too will appear just as entitled and high maintenance to any women who thinks he’s asking for the unlikely or the impossible.
If you ask me, the most high maintenance ads I’ve ever seen online are those written by women who are unabashedly obsessed with travel and vacationing, and not just in their ad, but in everything: defining who they are. Defining the man they want to meet. Defines the pictures they choose to display. The salary range. Having no kids or older kids off on their own. All the subtle details most men overlook, or worse, think are high quality traits.