old college friend, meet her again in life after college

[dem786]

so in college i met this girl who i never banged. she was never really into me like that an would say 'i think your a great guy, but i don't want to lead you on' she was pretty honest, so i can't be mad at her. whatever so every year i would try a little, then she wouldn't give in, and hten i would back off for the rest of the semester/year but we would always stay friendly.

now, we're both out of college, she moved to my city. at first she would be difficult to chill with since she was living with someone. then she moved again to another town in my city, on her own. i gave her **** about it on fb and then defriended her. then a week later i texted her asking her to chill. we met that saturday night and again sunday night. i didn't hook up with her, again but our conversations was real. no bull****.

i'm seeing her again this week, after a month of not seeing her- we talked her and there through text but not a lot. i made sure to control how much we text each ohter, meaning how much i text her for ever text she sends me etc. i obvs want to get it inn? so any suggestion would be helpful.

also note, when i was in college i was fake confident, super bone skinny. weight about 110lb. two years later after gym, i'm slightly more confident bc i have nothing to lose, and financially im in a strong position, and i weigh 125-30 put on some muscle and take care of my body. thank you in advance

 

[Johnnyventana]

What was the purpose of this?

i gave her **** about it on fb and then defriended her. then a week later i texted her

It just seems weird.

 

[dem786]

i found her on fb chat, i was bored so i was honest with why she wasn't trying to meet up. and i didnt like her response so i defriended her.

the following week i was bored, so i said why not- lets see what happens. we ended up meeting up. and since then we've been texting trying every so often, her a little more than me, to meetup again but we haven't yet.

 

[dem786]

we ended up meeting up that sat night and sunday night, the conversation was guinine and real. i was just a ***** both times to make the move on her. idk if im still in the friendzone but im just keeping it real and shes reaching out to me wanting to chill again. any suggestions?

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

Be bold.

If you chill with a woman and you can't even get a kiss then there is a big problem. Do not waste your time. Every time I chill with a new girl (excluding if I already banged her), by the end of the date I should be able to assess if she is into me or not. Now if she kisses you back you can say that it was successful but if she doesn't (I don't care what excuse she tells you) then she is not interested. Don't waste your time dem. Be bold, go in for the kiss and have a sh!t or get off the toilet mentality.