"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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OKCupid Says I'm One Of the Most Attractive

Tenacity

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Here's a copy and paste of the email I just got from OKC :). I'm happy about this because it just makes me remember high school when I wasn't getting any attention (or not that much attention) from women, wasn't getting any action, etc.

Fast forward to today and I'm one of the most attractive people on OkCupid, a site that has over 7 million users.

I know in hindsight it's like, "so what, it's just a dating site" but with all the crap I have been through...this right here is validation!

Hey (Took Username Out So It Doesn't Come Up In SEO),

We just detected that you’re now among the most attractive people on OkCupid.

We learned this from clicks to your profile and reactions to you in Quickmatch. Did you get a new haircut or something? Well, it’s working!

To celebrate, we’ve adjusted your OkCupid experience:

You’ll see more attractive people in your results.

This won’t affect your match percentages, which are still based purely on your answers and desired match’s answers. But we’ll recommend more attractive people to you. You’ll also appear more often to other attractive people.

Sign in to see your newly-shuffled matches. Have fun, and don’t let this go to your head.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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HoneyHitter

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Are you sure this "validation" is coming from the right place? It's their business interest to make you feel desirable. And further more, this would actually indicate that their matchings are seriously biased.
 

Dust 2 Dust

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I received the same message when I was on there. Anyone who's rated a 3 out of 5 stars or higher gets that message. As a result you'll be matched with more higher rated females. I worked as a site moderator for a while too. Despite being highly rated I still struggled and got ignored most of the time. I met my current GF on the site.
 

MatureDJ

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Now, I restrict my geographical area to Easter Europe, so maybe I'm comparing apples to oranges, but I find the women @ OKCupid to be far better than the dregs @ PlentyOfFish (where I use my American location.)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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