Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
I never chase. Out of the 12 ladies that were interested, two flaked a few days before the date and then ghosted, which is fine. They were 40, but had amazing bodies. They've also taken their profile off the dating site, so I assume someone else is doing them right now. Which, again is fine. I just want to know ahead of time so I can re-arrange my schedule. I've met 3 so far. Only one looked like she does online. I just cannot be attracted to boney ladies or fat ladies. I can usually deal with a little chub, as they usually have a nice butt and nice boobs, but it really depends. I never chase; so far, I do not think any of them are worth it. I just replied, let me know when you are free again, and we can reschedule. I doubt I'd hear from them though. This straight edge lady might be, as perhaps, she's not that damaged, but who knows. This is the sick one who's going away with friends. I'd be amazed if we see each other.
Don't bother with "games", just text her and set up a date and then end communication.
Don't ask women this, it's your job to figure it out and just do. Action over words.
@marmel75 and @devilkingx2 suggest some texting banter to keep things interesting during the week. No?
I realized that not talking to a girl until the date is a terrible idea when I thought about how it's a very bad sign if you have upcoming plans with a girl and she's radio silent, so if you just go ghost after the date plans are made then you may make her think you're not really coming (and if you're not talking to her, you won't notice if she's being suspiciously radio silent so you can start planning for what you'll be doing on that day instead if she stands you up)
That's fine, it's not games then. You do what is congruent to you. I personally do a quick chat, banter, set up a date, then radio silence until date. I prefer face to face interaction. You should ideally have been interesting from the get go and shouldn't need to be interesting in between dates. That said it's personal preference. Just don't do texting games where you wait or try to be something you're not.
I never act to be what I am not. It's just too long to go silent and then meet. That's what happened two weeks ago with another two. They traveling or something, but we made plans for that weekend. Two or three days prior, they asked for a raincheck and then ghosted. Normally, I get their number, banter for two or three messages, then set the date and meet 3 or 4 days later. Meeting 7 - 10 days later with radio silence has not been working for me.
That's been my normal plan, but the last two who we had to take a rain check screwed up my plain. So, I was thinking if I go radio silence for 10 days since getting her number, this one would cancel on me too. That is why I am throwing a little banter her way. Since she got a little sexual saying she likes a man's ass, I through it back to her on turn-ons. I thought that would had been a good move.
Doesn't matter.
Going ghost to the date never worked well for me. Much, much lower flake rate when staying in contact up until the date, even if its only a text or two a day.
In this case it doesn't really matter but if you can meet her on Thu and things look promising you can ask her to do something on the weekend again.
Same here. I never become an instant texting pen pal with a chick, but I do build a little rapport. Give them enough to become more interested before the date. Stay mysterious by responding back sporadically and dont become a texting pal to her.
