Alright so long story short is I started talking to this girl on OKC and asked for her number to which she responded "Nothing against you but I'm very wary of giving out my number" and I told her that was fine and kept talking. About a week later we were talking and she gave me her number so we started to text and she uses a lot of smiley faces, hahas, lols etc during text. We're both home from college and I asked her if she wanted to do something together and she said she was super busy but maybe next week. I text her the next week and ask the same and she apologizes and says this week is super busy but she will try for next week. At this point I just thought about nexting her but I decided not to. Whenever I text her she usually texts back immediately but she also never texts me first. I don't want to look needy so I would usually only text her maybe every 3-5 days. I texted her today and she isn't being talkative and I doubt she'll text back so at this point should I just delete her number and move on or ask about if she's free this week or what? I really do like her and I feel like we have good conversations (which usually last long) but I'm starting to face the reality that I should next her. What do you guys think? Thanks for all your answers and sorry for the super long post.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Personally, I would next her right away. She's brushed you off now a couple of times. She isn't initiating any contact. You're chasing her with no results.
Usually, from my experience, if a girl is serious about meeting you in rl, she will make it happen quickly. I would go NC and move on. If she ever does contact you again, see if she recommends a date or getting together. If she does, try to quickly pin down an actual date and time. None of this maybe next week crap.
Good luck.
Usually, from my experience, if a girl is serious about meeting you in rl, she will make it happen quickly. I would go NC and move on. If she ever does contact you again, see if she recommends a date or getting together. If she does, try to quickly pin down an actual date and time. None of this maybe next week crap.
Good luck.
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What other plates are you spinning? If you are not going out with her, who are you going out with instead?
agree with above.
if a girl is decently interested in you, even after she says "i'll let you know" or "maybe next week" then she will hit you up (based on my experience) Or maybe that's an indicator of high interest, I take that back. BUT, at the very least, there will be good clues that she is making an effort too.
you dont have to delete her number, just go NC, and see if she hits you up. if not after couple weeks, delete it and move on. gluck!
if a girl is decently interested in you, even after she says "i'll let you know" or "maybe next week" then she will hit you up (based on my experience) Or maybe that's an indicator of high interest, I take that back. BUT, at the very least, there will be good clues that she is making an effort too.
you dont have to delete her number, just go NC, and see if she hits you up. if not after couple weeks, delete it and move on. gluck!
TillTheEndOfTime
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I say NC and delete the number. He will be too tempted to text if he still keeps her number. Out of sight, out of mind.gh15 said:
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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Mixed signals means little to no interest. Women who are interested in you won't confuse you. When a woman wants to see you, she'll move a mountain to see you. Would she give mixed emotions to Johnny Depp? I think not.
She's using you for attention and feeding her ego. You need to drop her ass since she's not letting things advance for you. This girl isn't even thinking about seeing you, so drop her ass. This princess is in another castle.
Judge nismo's ruling.
Case closed.
She's using you for attention and feeding her ego. You need to drop her ass since she's not letting things advance for you. This girl isn't even thinking about seeing you, so drop her ass. This princess is in another castle.
Judge nismo's ruling.Case closed.