"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Okay, what in the world does this mean?

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A girl I know told me recently that she likes the "almost ecstatic" look that I always have on my face when I'm talking to her. She said that I have some weird look of sensuality that reminds her of some kind of "erotic movie on a sunday evening" mixed with a profound illumniation of the style of "the pope visiting latin america."

Now, I truly have no idea how in the world my face can remind that girl of an erotic movie and of the pope visiting latin america at the same, time, but those are pretty much her exact words if they make any sense.

Maybe I'm just not smart enough to understand. I've been wondering about what she meant for most of today and I'm still on a fence as to whether it was a compliment or an insult, or both at the same time :confused:

Any idea as to how to interpret that?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Originally posted by Skating Penguin
A girl I know told me recently that she likes the "almost ecstatic" look that I always have on my face when I'm talking to her. She said that I have some weird look of sensuality that reminds her of some kind of "erotic movie on a sunday evening" mixed with a profound illumniation of the style of "the pope visiting latin america."

Now, I truly have no idea how in the world my face can remind that girl of an erotic movie and of the pope visiting latin america at the same, time, but those are pretty much her exact words if they make any sense.

Maybe I'm just not smart enough to understand. I've been wondering about what she meant for most of today and I'm still on a fence as to whether it was a compliment or an insult, or both at the same time :confused:

Any idea as to how to interpret that?
It's because she wants your pants...

No no, I'm serious. She wants you, so that's what she sees in your face. Girls (or anyone actually) will rationalize any situation, or see anything they want that fits their current opinion.

They like you: "Your face is sensual"
They don't like you: "You face is a contraceptive"

Here's another example from a girl that I dated:

(Talking over Pizza).
"Her: You remember that guy that hit on me at the party where you and I finally hooked up?
Me: Yeah
Her: You know he actually called me? But that idiot called me after 5 days! You're supposed to call after 3 days! THAT'S the rule. What a doofus.
Me: It's actually a four day rule but I get what you mean. :p"

Now in REALITY, here's what I was thinking:
"You know if you were actually interested in him, you wouldn't have given a damn when he called, you would have just thought, 'Yeah! He called!'. I mean I called you after 5 days, lol, I don't see you *****ing about that!"

And do you know why she didn't even THINK about that same situation when it applied to me?
Easy:
Because she had high interest in me.

Girls will rationalize anything and see only the things that fit their current opinion, or state of mind.

In short, she says: "I love how sensual your face looks!"

Doesn't neccesarily mean that your face is actually sensual, it just means:

"I want you in my pants...right now."

This is the essence behind the notion "Once she dumps you, you have NO CHANCE EVER for getting back with her."
Once a girl has dumped you, she will then rationalize her decision to the absolute extreme. It doesn't matter how awesome you are, she will only see the things that made her dump you. Unfortunately, it will be very, very hard to change her mind on that, so there's no point in trying...unless many years pass, and you and her both significantly mature without any contact.
 

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Originally posted by Skating Penguin
A girl I know told me recently that she likes the "almost ecstatic" look that I always have on my face when I'm talking to her. She said that I have some weird look of sensuality that reminds her of some kind of "erotic movie on a sunday evening" mixed with a profound illumniation of the style of "the pope visiting latin america."

Now, I truly have no idea how in the world my face can remind that girl of an erotic movie and of the pope visiting latin america at the same, time, but those are pretty much her exact words if they make any sense.

Maybe I'm just not smart enough to understand. I've been wondering about what she meant for most of today and I'm still on a fence as to whether it was a compliment or an insult, or both at the same time :confused:

Any idea as to how to interpret that?
Sounds like she's on crack to me...
 

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Re: Re: Okay, what in the world does this mean?

Originally posted by GodsGiftToWomen
Yeah. Stop hangin' out with crackheads. :crackup:
lmao...I didn't see your post before I made mine.

hahahahahaha
 

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Re: Re: Okay, what in the world does this mean?

Originally posted by nishbuk
It's because she wants your pants...

No no, I'm serious. She wants you, so that's what she sees in your face. Girls (or anyone actually) will rationalize any situation, or see anything they want that fits their current opinion.

They like you: "Your face is sensual"
They don't like you: "You face is a contraceptive"

Here's another example from a girl that I dated:

(Talking over Pizza).
"Her: You remember that guy that hit on me at the party where you and I finally hooked up?
Me: Yeah
Her: You know he actually called me? But that idiot called me after 5 days! You're supposed to call after 3 days! THAT'S the rule. What a doofus.
Me: It's actually a four day rule but I get what you mean. :p"

Now in REALITY, here's what I was thinking:
"You know if you were actually interested in him, you wouldn't have given a damn when he called, you would have just thought, 'Yeah! He called!'. I mean I called you after 5 days, lol, I don't see you *****ing about that!"

And do you know why she didn't even THINK about that same situation when it applied to me?
Easy:
Because she had high interest in me.

Girls will rationalize anything and see only the things that fit their current opinion, or state of mind.

In short, she says: "I love how sensual your face looks!"

Doesn't neccesarily mean that your face is actually sensual, it just means:

"I want you in my pants...right now."

This is the essence behind the notion "Once she dumps you, you have NO CHANCE EVER for getting back with her."
Once a girl has dumped you, she will then rationalize her decision to the absolute extreme. It doesn't matter how awesome you are, she will only see the things that made her dump you. Unfortunately, it will be very, very hard to change her mind on that, so there's no point in trying...unless many years pass, and you and her both significantly mature without any contact.
No dude...she's gotta be on drugs. That's the only explanation. Even the sappiest women don't say sh*t like that.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Sounds to me like she's just creative.

She's probably a really interesting person.

If you don't like her, may as well send her my way.

~Sloopy
 

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To that I would say "large vocabularies turn me on" and do her.
 

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Re: Re: Okay, what in the world does this mean?

Originally posted by nishbuk

"Her: You remember that guy that hit on me at the party where you and I finally hooked up?
Me: Yeah
Her: You know he actually called me? But that idiot called me after 5 days! You're supposed to call after 3 days! THAT'S the rule. What a doofus.
Me: It's actually a four day rule but I get what you mean. :p"

Now in REALITY, here's what I was thinking:
"You know if you were actually interested in him, you wouldn't have given a damn when he called, you would have just thought, 'Yeah! He called!'. I mean I called you after 5 days, lol, I don't see you *****ing about that!"




Why didnt you say that?
 

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Re: Re: Re: Okay, what in the world does this mean?

Originally posted by mrRuckus
Why didnt you say that?
That's a very, very good question...I'm no DJ yet. Will keep in mind to say mostly what's on my mind from now on, lol. Of course, that was about 8 months ago.
 
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