"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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okay to date a woman you don't think you can marry?

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I'm dating this girl that I like a lot, but we have our problems and it makes me think I don't want to marry her. I know I'll probably get responses like "just break up with her", but I haven't made a final decision and I still have fun with her. On the other hand sometimes I feel like she thinks this relationship is going to lead into marriage. Any thoughts?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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You have issues that would keep you from marrying her but you'd still date her? Well, I guess if you're willing to put up with it while dating her why not (if you don't think it's a waste of your time).
 

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How long have you been dating her? Sometimes it takes months to see things another way. Don't worry about what she thinks. This is about you. If you are happy, stay that way until you're unhappy; simple as that.
 
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yeah. we've been dating for about a year and a half. things are mostly good, but we do argue a lot. I stand up for myself, but sometimes it is impossible to reason with her sometimes. I like her as a person and she has similar interests and somewhat similar goals. I am 22 y/o and am not ready to get married because I don't know how to qualify a girl for something that seems so permanent. I am not ready to get married now, but I don't know when I should start preparing for it as I think it would be good one day, when I feel it is right (not at the moment).
 

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You are obviously not ready nor willing to get married right now, So don't sweat it. Keep seeing her and see where things go.

Oh and when you fight with a woman, you CAN'T reason with them. So stop that.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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"Oh and when you fight with a woman, you CAN'T reason with them. So stop that."

actually I could reason with my last girlfriend believe it or not. she was an advanced placement student though. lol.
 

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rrrr, You broke up with the one woman that can have a logical thought out arguement??

You should've done your job as a man and help perserve those rare genes she has. It could affect human evolution!
 
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man. the reason I can't see myself with this girl is because she doesn't know how to deal with her problems. something bad happens to her and she turns into a ball of negative energy. I try...I make an attempt to be a positive person...all the time. I try to help her out and she responds with negativity: saying stuff like "that 'just be happy' stuff may work for you but not for me"...I care about her, but I have the feeling that one of these days, I won't be able to bear her burden anymore.
 

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cloneofstenyhoyer said:
I'm dating this girl that I like a lot, but we have our problems and it makes me think I don't want to marry her. I know I'll probably get responses like "just break up with her", but I haven't made a final decision and I still have fun with her. On the other hand sometimes I feel like she thinks this relationship is going to lead into marriage. Any thoughts?
would you test drive a porsche, even though you know you're more of a Lexus man?

hell yes!!!
 
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